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Camping with babies. Handling babies at SCA events. Infant safety.

 

NOTE: See also the files: baby-gifts-msg, children-msg, child-clothes-msg,

child-books-msg, teething-toys-msg, toys-msg, child-wagons-msg, baby-slings-msg.

 

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Babies at Penssic

 

I took a nine month old to Pensic last year.  Because she kept growing too

fast, i didn't even try to put her in garb.  I just took various of her regualr

clothes.  I also used disposable diapers.  And all her food came out of boxes

and bottles.  Open a jar of baby food, feed it to her, and throw away the jar.

No dishes to clean (you feed her straight from the bottle, no need to warm it

up)  In the morning I made her cereal from dry flakes, and sometimes fed it to

her during the day when it seemed too hot and she was fussy.  This stuff won't

upset an overstressed stomach.  Do not use Pensic water, not for you or the

kid.  You don't want to run the risk that you might develop something, and

then you would find yourself making mad dashes for the porta johns with a baby

tucked under your arm.  Take enough bottles so that you don't have to wash

them.  Sterilizing is next to impossible at Pensic, and is too much hassle to

even try.  If you use distilled water to make formula, then you don't need to

boil the water first.  Some people worry about distilled water leaching

minerals from a person.  Don't worry, the formula has full nutrition.  And I

reccommend formula, don't try to take milk, your refrigeration at Pensic is too

unrelibale.  A helpful hint:  soy fomrula does not stain, and doesn't smell

nearly as bad as milk based formula.  If your child gets moderately ill, they

will be able to drink soy formula diluted more than usual when you you couldn't

use milk formula because the kid throws it up.  It's also not nearly as bad for

you to get covered in soy vomit rather than milk vomit. This has happened to

me, and believe me, at times like that, little blessings are greatly

appreciated.  

 

Do take something that you can set up to prevent your child wandering, and shade

it.  Always keep your child covered, they are much more prone to sunstroke and

sunburn than adults.  Give them lots and lots of water. Whenever they fuss,

stick a bottle of water into them.  Then check diaper and other usual causes

of complaint.  You can't over water a child, they'll jsut pee it out.  Try to keep an eye to input and output, if they are not more or less equal, you have a

serious problem. Children who are suffering illness or heat exhaustion will

become more ittitable, or conversely, quieter.  If your child seems to be

deviating from its usual behaviour, investigate.  Check temperature (do bring a

thermometer and acetominaphn, anti-diarhea medication, diaper rash medication,

antihistiamine, and any other medication you might possibly want.  This

includes a jug of Pedialyte-one jug will allow you to feed a child while some

ones else rushes to the drug store to stock up on pedialyte for you.)  If your

child throws up, convert to clear liquids and consult a chirurgeon.  Vomitting

or diarhea can kill a child with dehydration within a few hours.  WAter is not

adequate, Pedialyte contains elotrolytes and other necessary substances.

Remember to take some alcohol to sterilize the thermomet and other medical

apparatus after each use.  Pensic is hot, be alert, your small infant

will suffer from the heat at some point, but if you are alert you can take

necessary steps to prevent serious problems form developing.

 

Taking a child to Pensic is doable, but not easy.  My husband and I were

snappish with one another, and found our activities greatly curtailed.  We took

turns staying with the child and going off by ourselves. We did not party, we

were too beat.  A noble lady volunteered to babysit for us and we shot our

archery points together.  My husband vetoed taking the stroller as being

unsuited to the Pensic terrain, but I wish I had some sort of transportation

because you get tired of hauling a kid around.  I think maybe a wagon would be

good, it means to can put your babycare kit in the wagon with the baby instead

of carrying it.  Also, if you get tired, you have something to sit on.  Make

sure you drink lots of liquids, particualry water, as worrying about a kid,

plus serving the kids needs will take a lot more out of you than you ever

imagined it would.  

 

I don't want to scare you into not taking kids to Pensic, but if you're doing

it alone, or with your partner, you're biting off a big undertaking.  We were

unable to camp with our group, so our casual babysitters were not around when

we needed them.  Having someone to babysit for you is a godsend.  I applaud

Marian Greenleaf for working so diligently to accomodate her groups children.

That kind of group support makes a world of difference. Unfortunately, it

doesn't happen here, even though I've made attmepts to start it.  

 

Yours in service.

Awilda Halfdane

Bright Hills, Atlantia

sgj%ctj.uucp at wb3ffv.ampr.org

 

 

From: Orilee_J_Ireland-Delfs.wbst845 at XEROX.COM

Date: 15 Feb 90 21:37:25 GMT

Organization: Society for Creative Anachronism

 

(I sent the gentle who asked a long dissertation on taking a baby camping.

I would like to summerize for the net as a whole.  If anyone has questions

or comments on my list, feel free to contact me.)

 

Items to consider:

A play yard (fence-type item with no bottom.  Wooden ones are available if

you can find them, Sears has an okay (although expensive) plastic one).

A wading pool or tub for cooling off and bathing

Baby-type items for keeping baby happy yet confined for times when you are

cooking or whatever (highchair, swing)  A little imagination could dress it

up to make it look less mundane

Easy to prepare foods.  Juices in individual cartons (lots of juice - good

for hot weather).  Crackers, cheese, cereal (wheat squares with raisins are

good munchies), bread and peanut butter, fruit (bananas, grapes, apple

chunks) fresh or dried.

A trunk to use as a changing table/storage

A portable crib or foam bolsters around a pile of bedding

Heavy pajama sleepers for the cool damp nights

Sun bonnets (made in period fabrics)

Baby sun screen

Bug repellant that is child-tested

Light weight garb in cottons or gauze that covers the arms and legs as

protection from sun and bugs

Heavy weight garb for cooler weather, particularly for layering, including

mittens and booties for real little ones who can't protect their hands

A babysitter for occasional babysitting time

A cart or wagon to carry the baby in, particularly at big events

blankets or throws to play on

Toys

 

Obviously, everything on this list should be modified to age-appropriate

for the child.  Also, if you have period substitutes for these things,

 

Lady Orianna vander Delft, mother of a very active 2 1/2 year old

Thescorre, AEthelmearc, East

Rochester, NY  

 

 

From: asparrow at nyx.cs.du.edu (Angelia Sparrow)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Camping with Babies

Date: 16 May 1994 09:42:45 -0600

 

Lilies is not Pennsic and a 2 month old is not a five month old, but

Here's what I have.

 

Baby will be fine either sleeping in your bedroll (handy for late night

nursings), a portable bassinette basket (what we used, may be too small

for a 5 mo.) or a play pen.  The play pen is my choice and I'll be putting

my 2 in it for sleep at the Lilies this summer.  It's nice and confining

for the big kids.

 

Take lots of diapers!  Treble what you think you'll need, and store them

in a water tight container.  I lost half a bag during Pavel's Flood last

year.  

 

A front carrier pack is indispensible!  And your broad-brimmer hat should

provide enough shade for both.  But, if he'll wear it, pack bonnets.  It

really helps.

 

Sunscreen, specially formulated for babies, and ignore the under 6 mo

warning.  It's necessary.

 

PArental sanity: take more trhan one adult per kid.  Nap when the baby

does.  Don't over schedule.  Don't be afraid to nurse in public.  Drink

lots of water.  Be prepared to call it a night at 8 pm, instead of 2 am.

 

The magic expanding baby dress in the old KNown WorldHandbook is a life

saver.  (Make a T-tuni wqay too big and then take it up.)

 

Aetyhelynde, with a terrible Two for Lilies this year.

 

 

From: berman at cauchy.math.lsu.edu (Glenn Berman)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Camping with Babies

Date: 18 May 1994 14:16:45 GMT

Organization: Louisiana State University InterNetNews Site

 

Just one follow up to the excellent suggestions already posted.  Choose  

your campsite very very carefully so that the noise won't wake up the  

young one at 1 A.M., and don't be afraid to let people know that you have  

a child and would appreciate they take the volume to some other section of  

the event site.

 

Best of Luck (taking my child to any sort of camping makes me yearn for  

Monday when I can get a good nights sleep(but it's worth it))

 

 

From: una at bregeuf.stonemarche.org (Honour Horne-Jaruk)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Camping with Babies

Summary: tips, medically-orientd mostly

Date: Tue, 17 May 94 11:52:03 EDT

 

kgandek at world.std.com (Kathryn GandekTighe) writes:

> This August we will be taking our 5 month old son to Pennsic.  Having

> been there as adults, we've got that part of the camping down to habit.  

> However, going with a baby obviously involved other considerations!  I'd

> be interested to hear anyone else's handy tips/things that worked for

> you.  How did you handle the heat? the sun? the cold? In what did your

> child sleep? Any parental sanity tips?  (Being still at the stage where

> he and I are still getting up in the middle of the night, I never

> underestimate parental sanity tips :-)  

      Respected friend:

      I have children's nurses' aide certification, and four years

experience in children's hospitals, and have only missed one Pennsic since

#5. Some suggestions-

      Use the diaper service out of Butler- dispoasbles are Very Bad in

the sticky humidity which adds so much to the Pennsic ambiance ;-}.

      Call your tent manufacturer and find out if the material in it is

a UV blocker- Years ago, a child had to be hospitalized after lying in the

"shade" of a Non-UV blocking tent for four hours.

      Bring Pedialite. If the baby has any trace of loose stool, start

feeding it ASAP. Get him used to the taste starting now.

      If you can't nurse, start getting the baby used to powdered formula

made with distilled water now. Don't use tapwater at Pennsic for baby's

food unless you live within a 70-mile radius of Butler on a well-water source.

(IE not treated municipal water.)

      Don't use liquid formula concentrate unless you're bringing a

refridgerator and have guaranteed power access. If baby must have liquid

formula, get the single ready-use kind- hideously expensive but much safer.

      Don't let anybody give baby uncooked honey. It may contain live

salmonella. This includes more things than you might realize- be careful.

      One period baby-toting system was a slat-woven pack basket, well

padded. Get one now and practice. This _is not_ safe for a child who can't

hold his head up yet.

      Or make a hip-holder out of a strip of soft wool or flannel.

      Or make a little cart with a shady hooped top. If you use inner tube

for the suspension straps it will have somewhat less jarring motion- but be

sure the innertube doesn't show.

      Make up a handout of `What to do and not do around babies' for the

others sharing your campsite.

      Find a babies' sunblock now that doesn't irritate his skin. Bring two

bottles minimum, since brands vary so much by region and you don't want to

expose him to an unchecked one when he's away from home. Keep one in the car

in case the campsite one grows feet.

      Take infant & children's CPR classes through your Red Cross or

equivalent. Your baby won't need it this year, but someone else's might. And

when he's into solids he'll be crawling and you'll be too busy.

      Take naps. If you get sick, he's in trouble too.

      Make his tunics from children's sleepwear materials. Even at four

dollars a yard, the stuff's worth it for any Pennsic-bound child. It does come

in decent colors, so call around. Bring _detergent_ to wash them in; soap will

destroy the fire-retardency you paid serious bucks for.

      If he has a known medical problem, find a nearby Pediatrician- the

Slippery Rock or Butler hospitals may have a referral service- and get

duplicate records sent to the office before you head out. It will make

emergency care much, much easier.

      Memorize a polite way to say `You're infectious and I don't want you

near the baby.' Practice until you can say it nose-to-nose with the scariest

Megaduke we've got, if necessary. Use it.

      Was your hands and his face every chance you get. If you nurse, wash

before feedings, since the local dust will contain different microbes than

he was exposed to at home. But don't get obsessive about it.

      Lay in an adequate stock of your own prescriptions, with a duplicate

supply for the car.

      Wear comfortable walking shoes. Break them in at home.

      _Do not_ lay him down in tall grass. Ticks are bad.

      Decide who you'll let hold, play with, and babysit him  now, while you

have time to think it through.

      Just accept that a lot of young adults will talk to your baby and

ignore you. It may be hormonal.

      Don't forget to take good care of yourself, and of other family

members.  

      Don't forget to have fun.

                        Yours in service-

                  Honour/Alizaunde, Demoiselle de Bregeuf, C.O.L.

      This may be reprinted _once_ by any local nonprofit SCA newsletter,

provided both my legal and SCA names appear as author.

Other camping event/war names may be substituted where appopriate. No other

editing is permitted without prior consultation, and a copy must be sent to me

at PO Box 56, South Lyndeboro, NH, 03082. All other rights reserved.

 

 

From: ercil at astrid.UUCP (Ercil C. Howard-Wroth)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Camping with Babies

Date: 19 May 94 02:29:13 PST

 

In article <CpwEKJ.DrK at world.std.com> kgandek at world.std.com (Kathryn GandekTighe) writes:

>This August we will be taking our 5 month old son to Pennsic.  Having

>been there as adults, we've got that part of the camping down to habit.  

>However, going with a baby obviously involved other considerations!  I'd

>be interested to hear anyone else's handy tips/things that worked for

>you.  How did you handle the heat? the sun? the cold? In what did your

>child sleep? Any parental sanity tips?  (Being still at the stage where

>he and I are still getting up in the middle of the night, I never

>underestimate parental sanity tips :-)  

>

>Thanks!

>Catrin o'r Rhyd For

>Kathryn Gandek-Tighe

>kgandek at world.std.com

 

We have been toting our now 2 yr old around since she was born.  

My first advice (unless you are nursing of course) is to leave your baby

with your parents or other willing relative and take a small break (maybe

only a partial week).  Also read this past TI as the Chiurgeon General had

a word or two for us parents and potentially pregnant people, who go

camping.

 

If she is reading Mistress AEflead of Duckford (Mrs Gunwaldt on the

net sometimes)  knows lots and lots about kids.  She runs a superb

newsletter called `Thinkwell' and has some supplements on children and

the SCA.  I'd love to hear her ideas too.  

 

But if you are like us you won't the child at home for whatever reasons.

Sooooo, Take a porta-crib.  It is

one of the best investments we made in terms of baby paraphanalia.

Take a sling.  Don't bother with a stroller, but if you do please

disguise it with cloth draping or more elaborate scheming. I am a parent

but I hate to see undisguised strollers at events.

 

Remember that you and your husband are a team and if you don't or can't

work together as one team, your Pennsic vacation will be difficult for you.

Each of you needs time alone and you need time together (if you have

a sister or brother who can watch the youngling for an hour or two).

This is another reason why you bring the porta-crib.

 

Bring lots of extra diapers.  Bring infant tylenol, your thermometer,

and infant benedryl.  Many chiurgeons do not carry children's medications

of any kind.  Make sure your first aid kit is child proof either locked

or something you can hang from a tent pole.  Your baby is 5 mo now, but

will be crawling, walking, climbing, exploring, and tasteing very very soon.

Practice is perfect and besides other children may be around your camp site.

The kind that get into those things are the kind that do not know - this

is not their tent-.  Prevention is a good thing.

 

t-tunics of different fabric are great for warmth. Onesies are great.  I

sewed a skirt onto one and added trim in the right areas. My daughter uses

it now for one of her dolls.  I use the long sleeve baby kimonos as an

underdress for the t-tunics.  It helped layer her.  Baby garb is easy and

fun.

 

Bring two or three sets of extra bedding.  We found that a porta-crib

gets the baby off the ground, but the damp cold can still seep through.

I layered and layered first the baby and then the bedding. I bought

a kiddy sized sleeping bag and unzipped it.  The layers went like this:

 

1. mattress, mattress quilt, quilted sheet, 2 baby blankets, sleeping bag

 

Place baby on top.  (baby is in long johns and blanket jammies w/socks on too)

 

2.  Many blankets.

 

The idea is to insulate from the bottom as well as the top.  Be sensitive

to the cold and be ready to have the baby sleep with you. A nurse told

me that a naked baby could be kept sufficiently warm by being next to her

mother's skin.    The above arrangement kept our daughter warm during a

night when it rained/slushed/snowed and was cooooldddd. She slept through

most of the night totally covered and toasty warm.

 

Take sunscreen (the kind for babies and children)!  I cannot stand to see

baked babies totally red and later crying.

 

Pennsic is wierd. It is hot and cold.  It always rains at Pennsic.  

 

One thing I discovered our last rainy camping event was the new leak

in the tent... right over our daughter's bed... soaked clear through.

 

I always try to be considerate of who I am camping next to since my daughter

is a herald in training and has awakened many adult people _not_ her

parents at events.  She has even screamed so loudly (about not sleeping

at midnight) that several constables came to check that we had not

abandoned her to an empty tent.  

 

Incidently, she slept through Rolling Thunder's drumming/dancing contest

at a recent war so the issue is not noise, but you might also consider

this issue when deciding where you want to camp.

 

Be ready and be able to break camp and get a motel room if necessary.

We did this at the snow event.

 

Read the other Pennsic threads, but dry blankets, bedding, and clothing,

and quarters for a laundrumat in the car (for the baby).

 

You may know lots of this already, but I just wanted to assist if I could.

 

From a fellow parent, who remembers sleepless nights and wishes you a good

time at Pennsic,

    

                                         Astridhr Selr Leifsdottir

                                              E. Howard-Wroth

  

...uunet!astrid!astridhr                          Shire of Heatherwyne

astrid!astridhr at uunet.UU.NET                           Kingdom of Caid

70327.1614 at compuserve.com

 

 

From: kohrn at bach.seattleu.edu (David B. Kohrn)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Babies camping out

Date: 26 Aug 1994 09:59:39 -0700

Organization: Seattle University, Seattle, Washington, U.S.A.

 

Traveling and camping with babies is possible, but yes it does

require extra preperation.  Long before I had kids I noticed

that many SCA kids were miserable because they did not have the

right clothing for the weather.  Many parents skimp on kids' SCA

garb which will only be worn a few times before it is outgrown.

DON'T.  Kids need Wool clothing for warmth, and many more

changes of clothing than you. (Watch me jump over that mud puddle. . .)

 

A few other items which we have found invaluable.

      Thermos--fill it with boiling water in the evening and you

will have a source of hot water (or warm if you mix it with coldwater)

all night.  Good for warming bottles, wet wipes, cleaning faces etc.

      Toys--SCA (non-offensive) toys which can only be played

with while camping (give the kid something to look forward to)

 

In general we find the kids like SCA camping (much more time with mommy,

daddy), other kids to play with, once you get there, no car seats, sleep

in the same room as mommy and daddy.

            -Calote

 

 

From: keaeris at postoffice.adsinc.com ()

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Babies at War...info on care??

Date: 27 Apr 1995 19:41:18 GMT

Organization: Advanced Data Services BBS - 68 lines - 44 Gigs

 

First M. Lastname (userid at psu.edu) wrote:

: Hello out there...

: I was just reading a post on someone who wants to go to War while

: pregnant.  It reminded me that I need some information on caring for a

: baby at War.  I am almost 9 months pregnant now, and if this baby is on

: time (May 26th or so), it should be approximately 3 months old by the

: time War rolls around.  I am something of a War Virgin (only been there

: last year--for the first time--in fact, that's where I got pregnant!

 

      Being pregnant with a baby due at any moment, I will have a child

the same age.  When we took our daugther to Pennsic 22, we we're there 2

weeks and ordered diaper service and took our pail. It worked well and didn't

vary our home routine too much.  This will not work for you if you intend to

be there less than a full week.

      Call Information and ask for Butler Diaper Service.  They are well

familiar with the Pennsic Troll Booth.

 

: in my finger...).  I am basically worried about infections, sunscreen

: and what sort of bedding the baby should have.  I have heard two

: different views on bedding--off the ground so the dampness won't seep

: into the bedding, and on the ground so the baby doesn't fall out of

: bed.  What do all you experienced mothers say on that???

 

Our daughter slept in bed with us nd id worked well for us.  We built a

platform out of pallets and put our bed on it.

 

:  Also, if the

: water is warm, can I take the baby to the swimming hole and hold it,

: while staying in the shallow water?  I have read that sunscreen can be

: dangerous since babies haven't developed enough pigment in their skin

: to handle sunscreen.  How much clothing for protection is too much?a

 

Bring things that will keep the baby warn at night.  Be prepared to

take it off when it gets hot.  Try for plainer baby clothes and don't get

hyper about not having garb.  Anybody who gets fussy about "mundane"

baby clothes on the baby is being anal and should be largely ignore--

unless they are willing to make the clothes for you.  A new mother has

little enough time to be dealing with baby let alone trying to make

everything "period".  Get something to replace the diaper bag that

doesn't look like a pastel baby nightmare.

 

Keep the kid out of the sun and you won't need sunscreen.

:  I

: plan on having some type of "period" stroller--a wooden wagon,

: maybe--with a canope.  Will that do?  If someone could please help me

: out, I would be very grateful.  Thank You.  Anyone can either use my

: Email address  at  CMB162 at PSU.EDU, or post on the rialto and hopefully I

: will see it.  In Service, Sabirah bint Jala min Saqqara.a

 

I used a sling and carried Amber, when Dady didn't have her.

 

Fursa Hand-seinn

 

 

From: macdj at onr.com (Dottie Elliott)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Babies at War...info on care??

Date: Mon, 01 May 1995 18:29:51 -0600

 

I haven't taken a baby to Pennsic (the grandparents just loved taking care

of him while we went to Pennsic when he was 1 and 2. However,I have taken

my son SCA camping many times in the last 2.5 years.  

 

We use a graco portable playpen as a bed (folds up to a package of about 1

ft x 1 ft x ~3.5 ft).  Its a safe place for baby for many reasons.  I have

also used it outside the tent under our pavilon when he needed a safe area

to play.  We have also taken his swing. A happy baby is worth the

imposition of a modern item or two and its a break from holding the baby

too!

 

At Pennsic you will need to be prepared for hot and cold weather, wet and

dry. It just depends on whim as to what weather will show up.  I have put

my son in 2 blanket sleepers at times because it was in the low 30's at

night and he doesn't keep covers on usually. He was warmer than we were.  

Ifs it colder than that or he acts cold, we put him in bed with us and

he's always toasty (though I don't kept much sleep).  

 

As for sun, I wouldn't expose the baby to sun at all. They are easily

burned and dehydrated at that age and shouldn't be exposed to the sun. Ask

your baby doctor for recommendations. A covered wagon is a good idea as

well as light weight clothing that covers the torso, arms and legs and a

hat that covers the ears as well are important!  

 

I would recommend nursing instead of messing with bottles if you can.

Managing formula and bottle sterilization is a lot of trouble. If you do

use formula buy distilled water in town for it or use pre-mixed.  Newborns

cannot tolerate lowlevels of beasties living in the water that older kids

and adults don't even notice.  If its really hot, give the baby extra

water (you can buy bottle water for babies in little glass bottles that

are very handy - you just add the nipples) or expect to nurse more often.

 

I don't see why you couldn't take the baby down to the swimhole.  You will

find, however, that baby gets cold much quicker than you will so you

probably won't be able to stay in long.

 

Good Luck!  

Clarissa

 

 

From: IVANOR at delphi.com

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Babies at War...info on care??

Date: 2 May 1995 04:32:23 GMT

 

Quoting keaeris from a message in rec.org.sca

   > Our daughter slept in bed with us and it worked well for us.  We built a

   > platform out of pallets and put our bed on it.

 

Of course this can be dangerous, if either of you sleeps restlessly.

 

   >be : dangerous since babies haven't developed enough pigment in their

   >skin : to handle sunscreen.  How much clothing for protection is too

 

No, the problem is that PABA can be dangerous to children, as in toxic.

The more pigment in your skin the less you need sunscreen. Get a PABA-

free sunscreen designed for babies, and keep it out of the baby's eyes and

mouth.

 

   > Bring things that will keep the baby warn at night.  Be prepared to

   > take it off when it gets hot.  Try for plainer baby clothes and don't

   >get hyper about not having garb.  Anybody who gets fussy about "mundane"

   > baby clothes on the baby is being anal and should be largely ignore--

 

Actually, a plain knit undershirt is pretty close to what the BVM is painted

knitting for the baby Jesus in period paintings.... Diapers aren't period,

but the alternative is no longer acceptable, so go with good sanitation.

A bunting for the chilly nighttime is also a period solution, though people

will have to ignore the zippers in the modern models.

 

The sling carrier is a good idea, if it is an infant here.

 

Carolyn Boselli    Host of Custom Forum 35    SCAdians on Delphi

Ive Annor M'Quhairr of Sighty Crag, AoA, Sen. Canton Dragon Forge, EK

 

 

From: Margaret Griffith <peggieg at u.washington.edu>

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Babies at War...info on care??

Date: Tue, 2 May 1995 08:24:45 -0700

Organization: University of Washington

 

On 2 May 1995 IVANOR at delphi.com wrote:

 

> Quoting keaeris from a message in rec.org.sca

>

>    >be : dangerous since babies haven't developed enough pigment in their

>    >skin : to handle sunscreen.  How much clothing for protection is too

>

> No, the problem is that PABA can be dangerous to children, as in toxic.

> The more pigment in your skin the less you need sunscreen.  Get a PABA-

> free sunscreen designed for babies, and keep it out of the baby's eyes and

> mouth.

>

Please check this information with your child's pediatrician.  I have

been informed by more than one pediatrician that NO baby under the age of

six months should wear ANY kind of sunscreen.  You really should keep the

child out of the sun and try to keep their temperature moderated at all

times.  

 

Meg Penrose

 

 

From: brighid at hern.stonemarche.org

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Babies at War...info on care??

Date: 2 May 95 22:41:33 EST

Organization: Hern the Hunter, Stonemarche (NH)

 

In article <3o4ckn$55t at news1.delphi.com>, IVANOR at delphi.com writes:

...

>

> No, the problem is that PABA can be dangerous to children, as in toxic.

> The more pigment in your skin the less you need sunscreen.  Get a PABA-

> free sunscreen designed for babies, and keep it out of the baby's eyes and

> mouth.

 

Some/most pediatricians will say that babies under 6 months of age should

not have sunscreen or bug spray on them or their clothes. Many children of

this age are teething and so will chew on anything accessible including

clothing with bug spray.

--

Brighid      Wood        

brighid at hern.stonemarche.org

 

 

From: Maryanne.Bartlett at f56.n105.z1.fidonet.org (Maryanne Bartlett)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Babies at War (Long!!!!!!!!)

Date: Wed, 03 May 1995 18:57:00 -0800

 

-=> Quoting keaeris at postoffice.adsinc.com to All <=-

 

ke> First M. Lastname (userid at psu.edu) wrote:

ke> : pregnant.  It reminded me that I need some information on caring for

ke> a : baby at War.  I am almost 9 months pregnant now, and if this baby

ke> is on : time (May 26th or so), it should be approximately 3 months old

<snip>    

ke> 2 weeks and ordered diaper service and took our pail. It worked well

ke> and didn't vary our home routine too much.  This will not work for you

ke> if you intend to  be there less than a full week.

<snip>

        I've been using disposables at tourney for years. The Right Start

catalogue has a nifty little device that wraps them so they don't smell

and can go out in regular trash.

 

ke> : in my finger...).  I am basically worried about infections,

 

            Keep baby clean. Take lots of baby wipes and also bathe

her/him, every day, twice or thrice if it's hot. Beyond that, with a

3-month-old you have practically nothing to worry about. (Not like a

3-year-old that will eat *anything*!)

ke> sunscreen : and what sort of bedding the baby should have.  I have

ke> heard two : different views on bedding--off the ground so the dampness

ke> won't seep : into the bedding, and on the ground so the baby doesn't

ke> fall out of : bed.  What do all you experienced mothers say on that???

 

ke> Our daughter slept in bed with us nd id worked well for us.  We built

ke> a platform out of pallets and put our bed on it.

 

         We've tried several different things depending on the age of my

youngest at the time (I've six kids, so believe me, I've tried most of the

variations possible!) What I like for a *small* baby (under 4 months) is a

Moses basket, the kind with a hood. Make a complete lining for it so baby

doesn't get scratched by the wicker. The sides keep drafts off baby and

the hood can be turned so that the sun won't shine on him/her. I've had

babies sleep with me (particularly night nursers) and I don't like it,

since all of mine have been more restless when doing this at events.

However, when it's cold we usually have a pile of the smaller kids in our

bed. As they get older we put them in with the older kids. (I have one

teen and a couple just pre-). I also have a folding portacrib, the kind

that's just a top rim, legs and a plastic...um...bed-shaped bag (I dunno

what else to call it!) I ripped off the plastic and used it for a pattern

for a denim version. I also made a ruffle/skirt that goes over the outside

and covers the legs. This can be carted around or used in the pavilion. My

youngest will still be sleeping in it this summer and he's 16 months old,

now. Babies, little ones, will sleep anywhere. If you always carry a baby

quilt (buy a solid dark colour, if possible, or make a cover) you can put

baby *anywhere* and not have him/her in your lap.

ke> :  Also, if the

ke> : water is warm, can I take the baby to the swimming hole and hold it,

ke> : while staying in the shallow water?  

 

        Babies love to swim, but don't let go! You *can* get

tiny-baby-size lifejackets that will hold a baby's head above water, but

don't depend on one. The same goes for the little inflateable floating

baby seats. Watch kids up to age 3 *every* second they're in the water. This

goes for bathtubs, too. I have a cheap plastic dishpan that goes with us

to all events. I also have a set of cheap plastic floating toys that fit

inside it along with a couple of washed peanut butter buckets and

margarine tubs (for pouring). I also pack washclothes, baby soap and towel

in this pan. Yes, it's mundane, but if it gets hot, it's a great way to

cool baby off, packs better than a regular baby bath and fits babies up to

a couple of years*. Just a couple of inches of water and lots of splashing

is a great way to deal with a hot, tired and fretful baby, not to mention

possible prickly heat or diaper rash problems. This dishpan is still going

to be in use this summer, since it's a good way to cool off (and allow

water play) for even an older child right in your campsite. I keep it in

back of the pavilion near the ice chest and water jug.

 

>I have read that sunscreen can

ke> be : dangerous since babies haven't developed enough pigment in their

ke> skin : to handle sunscreen.  

 

        PABA is bad for babies. So are some of the other ingredients. Ask

your pediatrician. There *are* a few sunscreens that are safe, but the

best screen is opaque clothing. Figure on a bonnet or coif. You can make a

bonnet with a rectangle of fabric, about 6"x13". Put a casing across one

long side and gather with a ribbon and tie it tight. Put ties on the other

two corners. Gathers go to the back. Tie it under the chin. (This fits up

to 6 mos., usually. Make 'em larger for later) Babies *never* went capless

in period!

>How much clothing for protection is too

ke> much?

 

        Put one more layer on the baby than what *you're* wearing. If

you're wearing one tunic (and want to ditch it!) baby should be in a

diaper and t-shirt. (Buy the tie-side shirts. They're period!) If you're

wearing two tunics and a cloak, baby should probably be in a onesie(the

snap-bottom shirts) diaper & booties or socks (first layer) a creeper (the

one-piece lightweight things with feet (2nd layer) a gown or blanket

sleeper and bonnet (3rd layer) and be wrapped in a shawl.

 

ke> Bring things that will keep the baby warn at night.  Be prepared to

ke> take it off when it gets hot.  

 

         The key is "layers".

 

>Try for plainer baby clothes and don't

ke> get hyper about not having garb.  Anybody who gets fussy about

ke> "mundane"  baby clothes on the baby is being anal and should be largely

ke> ignore-- unless they are willing to make the clothes for you.  A new

ke> mother has little enough time to be dealing with baby let alone trying

ke> to make  everything "period".  

 

         Ack! Buy the knit, solid-colour, drawstring-bottom baby gowns.

Except for the fabric and snaps (which medieval mom would have *killed*

for!) the da** things *are* period. So are the previously mentioned

side-tie shirts! So are bonnets! So are the zip-up pram bags ('cept that

they had toggles or ties)! So are booties! (They are probably the most

period shoes that *any* of us wear!) Get a nurse in hospital (or older

relative) to show you how to swaddle a baby in a recieving blanket and

buy/make several *square* ones in solid colours or stripes. Garb for

babies is *lots* easier than for adults and the other poster is right.

Ignore the A-R types or tick 'em off for me!

 

         A period garment that doesn't get used much is a mantle. Take a

circle of pretty fabric, as big as you can manage, but at least 6 feet

across. Cut a 4" diameter hole in the center and a slit heading off toward

the edge. (4" ought to be plenty, but this is the baby's head hole, so

check.) I bind the raw edges in double-fold bias tape and put ties at the

neck. A swaddled baby can be slid into this and held in the lap or in your

arms and the spill of fabric is gorgeous. This garment is sortof like a

houppelande with no sleeves.

 

         If it bothers you (or baby) to have no sleeves, a less extreme

version of this, more like a long t-tunic, also looks really good. T'ain't

period (so far as I know) but it looks good. I've also added a hood with a

point to one and gotten rave reviews, even from A-R costumers.

 

>Get something to replace the diaper bag

ke> that  doesn't look like a pastel baby nightmare.

 

        Make a small drawstring sack (or six) and hang 'em off your belt.

Make 'em in different colours (so you can keep 'em straight) and use one

for each category of item, i.e.clean clothes in one, dirty in another,

diapers/wipes/lotion in a third (put a ziploc inside this one), booties

and accessories in another, etc.

 

ke> Keep the kid out of the sun and you won't need sunscreen.

 

        Absolutely! (but you won't be able to, completely, so use clothing

to cover up! I wear veils for good reason! They're also great to nurse

under without having folks stare.)

ke> :  I

ke> : plan on having some type of "period" stroller--a wooden wagon,

ke> : maybe--with a canope.  Will that do?  

 

        Maybe, I'd rather not use one, but if you want to, go ahead. I

mostly don't want the bulk to carry on the trip.

 

ke> I used a sling and carried Amber, when Dady didn't have her.

 

        I've also used a sling and prefer them. The period version is a

large square shawl. Fold it on the diagonal. Put the hypotenuse under your

arm with the opposite points hanging down. Tie the acute angles into a

knot on the opposite shoulder. Slide baby in under your arm, legs down.

Pull the bottom points up between baby's legs. If you wrap your arm around

the baby and hold those points in that hand, your other hand is completely

free.

 

        The other version of this takes help. It's much more like the

mundane version of a baby sling. Take your same shawl. Lay it on the

ground so one point is at your feet and the bias is pointing directly

ahead from you. Take the two side points and pull them into the center of

the shawl so that they touch. Flop everything straight. Then fold the two

parallel folds that this creates toward each other so that they touch.

Um...I'll try a drawing.

 

    step 1       step 2

      /\           /\

    /    \        |\/|

    |    |        |  |

    | >< |        |  |

    |    |        |  |

    \    /        |/\|

      \/           \/

 

Lay baby longways along step 2 (along the bias, that is). Now the hard

part! Lean over baby and pick her/him up, as though you'll be holding

him/her diagonally across your chest. Toss the point at the baby's

head-end over your shoulder and the other under the other arm. Have your

helper tie the two ends behind your back. You can squirm into and out of

this, once tied, but... it's easier with help!

 

       More tourney tips: you and baby *must* drink plenty of liquid,

especially if you're nursing. Take a nap (or at least lie down) when baby

does or you'll be worn out. Bring no-cook or minimal cooking foods or

figure on buying stuff at a food merchant. Put up a clothes line and rinse

baby clothes ASAP. (Use that ubiquitous dishpan and baby soap!) If

somebody offers to hold or mind baby, *let 'em*! Camp with close friends

or other new parents who will understand if baby imitates a fire siren at

4 am.

 

--Anja--

 

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: More on Smalls at Pennsic.

From: pendletonsm at hiram.edu

Date: 7 May 95 14:06:13 EST

Organization: Hiram College

 

Just adding my thoughts of the care of Smalls at War.

Why are you REALLY going to Pennsic?  To expose your kids to the Current

Middle Ages, or to enjoy them yourself.  I have learned the hard way that if

I take my two-year-old daughter to events, I will spend the entire time

chasing her around trying to prevent catastrophes and getting frustrated

because there's no time for me to really pay attention to anything.  I do

take her once in a while anyway so that she'll become used to the atmosphere,

but all Pennsic would mean to me if she were along is entirely too many

cars, blades, fires, and other ways a fast-moving toddler could get hurt.

I'm using up most of my vacation time for the year to go to Pennsic, and I

plan to RELAX.  This doesn't mean I don't adore my baby, of course I do, but

she is not a relaxing human being at this point.  

The solution?  In my case, it's easy-- that's the "two weeks each summer"

that I had put into my ex-husband's visitation schedule when we split up,

with the understanding that as Bronwyn gets older the dates will slowly

shift so that she can attend more and more of Pennsic as she gets better

able to look after herself.  Of course, that's not a option with a nursing

baby, and they're a lot more portable and prone to stay where you put them

than my little whirlwind.  In the future, however, if this is your only

vacation for the year, it might be worth considering that part of Pennsic

would be a TERRIFIC time for little Wulfstan to bond with Grandma and

Grandpa, or some such folk.  Remember-- a happy, relaxed parent is a patient,

flexible parent.

 

                              Yours in the Service to the Dream,

                                    Katrin

 

**"Hic iacet Arturus, Rex Brittani.  Non mortuus est. Resurget."**

 

 

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

From: ojid.wbst845 at xerox.com (Orilee Ireland-Delfs)

Subject: Re: More on Smalls at Pennsic.

Organization: Xerox Corporation, Webster NY

Date: Tue, 9 May 1995 16:18:46 GMT

 

I'd like to second Katrin's comments - my oldest daughter did

not attend Pennsic until she was 6 years old - able to dress and

use the privy herself, feed herself, and make her wishes known.

Plus, we could explain to her why she could or could not do

certain things.  (Her first war was great - the King of

Drachenwald took her to the family swimming hole, she got

to climb the towers of the East Kingdom gate, and she generally

had a great time - and spent lots of her own money shopping).

She is alreaday saving her allowance and planning on what

to wear for this year's War.

 

Our youngest will probably follow in her sister's footsteps at

six as well (another 3 years).

 

Camp Grandma is a wonderful place to spend a week plus during the

summer!

 

Orianna

 

 

From: Maryanne.Bartlett at f56.n105.z1.fidonet.org (Maryanne Bartlett)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Babies at War...info on care??

Date: Sat, 13 May 1995 12:55:00 -0800

 

-=> Quoting IVANOR to All <=-

> Our daughter slept in bed with us and it worked well for us.  We built a

> platform out of pallets and put our bed on it.

 

IV> Of course this can be dangerous, if either of you sleeps restlessly.

         Oh, puff! A mom with a tiny baby tends to naturally curl up

around the baby, as though baby was still on the inside. (Hey, she's slept

that way for at least 4 months by that point!) As babies get older, they

squeak if you roll over on them. I know. I've six kids. All of them have

slept with me often at tourneys. All of them have gotten rolled onto and

*believe*me* you roll right back off! They don't get hurt.

 

         Something that is *more* likely to be dangerous to baby than

rolling over on it, is that most of us tend to use fluffy blankets or

quilts. If baby goes face down in the quilt and can't roll...well...heard

of SIDS? They do that in their own beds, too.

 

IV> Actually, a plain knit undershirt is pretty close to what the BVM is

IV> painted knitting for the baby Jesus in period paintings....  

 

         Have you a specific reference on this one? I can't find one, but

this is something I'd *love* to have, even just a hint!

 

IV> Diapers aren't period,

 

         <plain language alert> Uh, did you realize that *disposables* are

pre-historic? Soft skins stuffed with powdered herbivore dung or other

cellulose compounds have been documented in the late stone age. Do you

assume that people who had any choice would let them poop on the floor?

Yes, lots of kids went naked, or mostly so, in the summer, but they can't

in winter. Most of them were tightly swaddled, too. Believe me, most moms

are *not* dumb enough to leave a soggy, poopy baby in an equally, soggy,

poopy swaddle, or at least, not more than once. Think this one through.

(Can you say, "diaper rash, sore bottom, *crabby* baby"?) It's another one

of the fallacies that we accept without thinking over. There are a number

of commentaries, particularly in late period, that talk about "clouts". If

you want, I'll see if I can find the references.  

 

>A bunting for the chilly nighttime is also a period

IV> solution, though people will have to ignore the zippers in the modern

IV> models.

 

         They can be made with ties. In fact, the one I wore as a baby was

a tiny hooded jacket that tied under the chin and a...well...I don't know

what to call it but a sleeping bag, no zipper! Recently, I found a hooded

bunting in a thrift store with a busted zipper. I pulled it out, bound the

raw edge and added ties. I want to point out to others reading this that

Ivanor/Carolyn and I are talking about "baby bags" not the kind with

separate legs!

 

IV> The sling carrier is a good idea, if it is an infant here.

 

         I think that when this thread started, we were discussing a 2-3

month old baby. I agree with you on the sling, though a baby can be

carried in a shawl or in any of the over-the-shoulder cloaks.

 

--Anja--

 

 

From: powers at cis.ohio-state.edu (william thomas powers)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Babies at War...info on care??

Date: 14 May 1995 13:23:29 -0400

Organization: The Ohio State University, Department of Computer and Information Science

 

> IV> Actually, a plain knit undershirt is pretty close to what the BVM is

> IV> painted knitting for the baby Jesus in period paintings....  

>

>         Have you a specific reference on this one? I can't find one, but

>this is something I'd *love* to have, even just a hint!

 

A good history of knitting should include a couple of BVM knitting

paintings.

 

However skimming my art books turned up a interesting set of children's

clothes:  

 

Giovanni Bellini  "Madonna and Child" (aka "The Greek Madonna")

currently in the Brera, Milan, has OBS in what looks like a T-shirt

with a short side slit ot the bottom hem. 1565

 

Jacopo Bellini, "Madonna and Child" 1395, T-Tunic, round neck with deep

neck placket, decorated with wide gold embroidry; also wearing a *white*

belt. White shirt shows at the neck. Also in the Brera

 

Bergognone, "Madonna and Child, St. Catherine and the blessed Stefano

Maconi", Brera, 1490, simple golden yellow shirt/tunic?, cloth belt

 

"Holy Family at Work"  Hours of Catherine of Cleves, long sleeved

long tunic, Note: period baby walker!

 

(otherwise; the paintings seem to tend toward naked babies being

dandled on silk brocades or velvets---sure indication of pervasive

insanity *or* a steadfast belief in miracles!)

 

wilelm the parent, also a smith

 

 

From: James Duncan Logan <hammer at startext.net>

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: babies and smalls at events

Date: 1 May 1996 17:01:30 GMT

Organization: World Wide Service & Equipment Co. Inc.

 

Greetings from Jane Sitton-Logan (not James Duncan):

 

Advice to the expectant parents -- don't forget headgear, especially

straw hats.  

 

And breastfeeding is the easiest way to feed infants, not to mention most

healthy.  You don't have to worry about mixing formula (fresh water),

keeping it from spoiling, or how to heat it over a camp fire.  Plus, you

save $$, which can be used for that new garb....  If you are not

convinced about breastfeeding, please contact your local La Leche League

so they can re-educate you.

 

Keep toddler girls' skirts short enough that they don't trip when they

walk.

 

A LARGE basket makes a nice infant bed.

 

LOTS of baby wipes.

 

A spray bottle with ice inside makes a wonderful mister for hot younguns.

And grownups, for that matter.

 

If you're at an event where there is electricity, consider bringing a

small fan if the weather is hot.  It will help kids sleep, especially

since it creates "white noise".

 

Get toddlers their own folding chairs that they can carry around.  It

will keep them from sitting in other peoples' chairs and getting scolded.

 

My daughter loves her SCA "purse", a small basket she can carry her

treasures and snacks in.

 

Anyone have any more tips?

 

--Madeleine de Lindsay, mother of 4 yr old and 9 week old

mka Jane Sitton-Logan

 

 

From: ercil at astrid.upland.ca.us (Ercil C. Howard-Wroth)

Subject: Re: babies and smalls at events

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Date: 3 May 96 01:07:43 PST

 

James Duncan Logan (hammer at startext.net) wrote:

: Greetings from Jane Sitton-Logan (not James Duncan):

: Advice to the expectant parents -- don't forget headgear, especially

: straw hats.  

:

: And breastfeeding is the easiest way to feed infants, not to mention most

: healthy.  You don't have to worry about mixing formula (fresh water),

: keeping it from spoiling, or how to heat it over a camp fire.  Plus, you

: save $$, which can be used for that new garb....  If you are not

: convinced about breastfeeding, please contact your local La Leche League

: so they can re-educate you.

 

ditto, nursing is period too (I know - I documented it as a period

practice... heh heh and almost entered mother's milk as a .. period food

in a culinary competition... ;)  

 

Garb:  a tabard w/ ties on sides or tying in back works very well and

is cool in very hot / humid climates.  Do pin tucks in skirts/dresses

of young girls so they can let out hems and you don't have to make

tons of garb.  a naked baby was period (but don't let them run around

a tourney field that way.  Only babes in arms - good if it is an

unbearable hot day.

 

porta-cribs are great as they can contain slightly mobile children safely.

Cover with sheets or what not to keep them from being visually obtrusive.

 

bring toys, food, drink, sippy cups,

 

And I ALWAYS bring a potty.  PortaPrivies

are awful for kids!  This way they can stay where I can see them.  The

germs they have are the ones they bring. No rush runs to the potties.

I bring a spray bottle of lysol and empty the chamberpot myself.

 

Bring the other parent and take turns!!!

 

I have lots of ideas - you can email me privately if you want more.

Astridhr

 

 

From: moondrgn at bga.com (Chris and Elisabeth Zakes)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: About to be new parents

Date: Tue, 30 Apr 1996 04:22:31 GMT

 

XDHQ27A at prodigy.com (Richard Davis) wrote:

>I was interested in knowing if anyone has some useful knowledge or advice

>to new parents on how to survive in the sca with a brand new baby.  Any

>and all help would be greatly appreciated.

>Sean O'Fogarty

 

Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. (3 times)

 

1. Invest in a portable crib, the sort that packs down to a 1'x1'x3'

space. They are invaluable as playpens during the day, don't take up

too much space in the tent/crash space at night, and can be packed

relatively easily.

2. Invest in a good backpack/carrier. We used one that was basically a

pouch with long straps, and could be used as a front, back, or side

pack. This is great for carrying/cuddling the baby and leaving your

hands free. I've even worn it while serving feasts.

3. Realize that babies don't just take up time, they take up space.

Counting carseat, portable crib, diaper bag, extra diapers, clothes,

etc., your baby will need nearly as much transport space as an adult.

You may need a bigger car (and tent).

4. Remember your priorities. The baby comes before fighting or court

or A&S projects or whatever. Unless you hold the bardic circle outside

your own tent, one of you will have to stay with Junior if the other

one wants to go out and party. On the other hand, if you have the

bardic circle by your tent, the noise will probably keep her awake

(and fussy).

5. You *can* leave the little tyke with Grandma, but don't be

surprised if he shows no interest in the SCA when bigger. Our three

were all going to events within a few weeks of birth, and love it.

6. Some folks use an "SCA babysitter", someone who helps with the kid

in exchange for transportation and site/feast fees. I've never tried

it, so I can't comment, but it sounds like a good idea.

7. Pack *lots* of extra clothes. Kids & dirt are like magnets & iron.

8. If there are other families in your group, see about networking and

trading kid-juggling for a while. On the plus side, you've got extra

eyes and hands if you get overwhelmed. On the minus side, if your

ideas on discipline and behaviour don't match you're going to have

friction.

9. If at all possible, plan ahead with your spouse, and be willing to

make sacrifices. "Well, I really want to do X. If you can watch Small

then, I'll watch her during court so you can go herald."

10. Pack kid-food for lunch and feast. The average 2-year old probably

won't be interested in eels seethed in wine, no matter *how* period it

is. Especially if feast is after court and court is running late. . .

Use things that don't require refrigeration whenever feasible, since

even the best ice chest isn't perfect.

11. Teach your kids basic SCA rules: Don't touch other people's stuff

without asking, knives and fires are dangerous, etc. (We taught our

kids "HOLD" while crossing the street.) Take the time to show them

dangerous situations and explain why they are dangerous. For example,

The site has a river on one boundary. Make time to take the kid(s)

down and let them see it and maybe throw a few rocks in. Explain that

you can't go swimming now because it's too cold, or you don't have

your suits, or swimming time is later when everybody can go. Make sure

they understand that Daddy or Mother has to come with, to go look at

the river again.

12. Set reasonable boundaries for the bigger kids. "Don't go past this

tree, and this tent, and don't cross that road. Otherwise, go play."

Watch toddlers carefully--they're old enough to find trouble, but not

old enough to avoid it. Remember that portable crib/playpen? It's

still useful.

12. Try to have SCA-appropriate toys, but don't be fanatical about it.

Be *very* careful about toy swords; most of them can still hurt if

used with force. Our kids have a rule of "only hit people who are

wearing armor", and we give them the opportunity to take a few shots

at Mother or Daddy when they are in armor.

13. It's never too early to start teaching courtesy. It's much easier

to teach "please" and "thank you" when they are learning to talk, than

to suddenly spring it on them at age 7.

 

DISCLAIMER: this is based mostly on Ansteorran experiences, where we

generally camp in "primitive" sites (bare ground, maybe trees,

probably fire ants, flush toilets or showers are a luxury). Your

kingdom's customs and conditions may vary.

 

      -Tivar Moondragon

C and E Zakes

Tivar Moondragon (Patience and Persistence)

and Aethelyan of Moondragon (Decadence is its own reward)

moondrgn at bga.com

 

 

From: dickeney at access1.digex.net (Dick Eney)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: tiny Children in the SCA

Date: 16 Jul 1996 22:18:26 -0400

Organization: Express Access Online Communications, Greenbelt, MD USA

 

Krista Kathryn Long-Shroyer <94002 at ef.gc.maricopa.EDU> wrote:

>Where can I find period sources for childrens products that look or are

>medieval?  My son is 2, and I would love to get re-involved, but i think

>that strollers, sippee cups, plastic toys and other standard required

>items for young children are very gauche.

 

<rip>

 

sippers: I'm sure I've seen them done up in silver plate for the doting

grandmother to buy - expensive but oh so impressive.

 

wooden toys: try new-agey stores, educational sources (they tend to go for

the 'pure unfinished wood' type of toy when they aren't plastic) -

Creative Playthings used to have wooden rattles.  Or get to know someone

who does woodworking.  At 2+, rattles should be a good beginning.

Pulltoys can be of knights on horseback.

 

A fancy cloth covering for the stroller will make it into a (tiny)

gilt carriage or gypsy- or hay-wagon.

 

Have fun with it!

 

-- Tamar the Gypsy

 

 

From: Morgoth <morgoth at nome.net>

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: tiny Children in the SCA

Date: Thu, 18 Jul 1996 00:32:15 -0700

 

Instead of sippers, maybe try a converted wine skin. It has the right

spout, but maybe modified for use by small ones..

 

Wagons, maybe make a small period wagon (if you have someone who can do

this). Or maybe a small chariot (with back panels to keep the kid in,

maybe some form of straps to... Ever see the old movies when the prisoners

are being lead into the colloseum? That idea maybe? I'm sure you can do

some selective authentic (the ball bearing/axle and such are modern, but

make it look period).

 

Carrying small children (babies), instead of the carrying thing that looks

like a backpage. Instead get a tartan blanket, put the kid under your coat

and tie the blanket under the kids legs, and around your sholders/upper

chest. Its hard to explain, but its like a papoose, but with out the

board. Or maybe a papoose would look more authentic, I'm sure europe and

other places had compreable items.

 

Here in Alaska, many of the eskimo woman carry their kids under their

parki (sort of like a parka, with out the inner layer for warmth, they

wear parki's almost everywhere, especially when berry picking).

 

Morgoth

 

 

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

From: orilee ireland-delfs <orilee_j_ireland-delfs at wb.xerox.com>

Subject: Re: Children in the SCA

Organization: Xerox

Date: Mon, 29 Jul 1996 17:34:35 GMT

 

You can also find the silver baby cups that come with plastic lids - while the

plastic lid isn't terribly period, it looks much better than the brighlty

colored plastic cups with lids.  You could even have your device engraived on

the cup!

 

Cloth dolls dressed in garb (make it match what the child is wearing!); even

the modern dolls dressed in garb are more interesting to play with.

 

We have a whole set of wooden characters - King Queen Prince Knight Herald,

etc. that my daughters take to play with.  (These we get every year at the

Pennsic War from Claus the toymaker - it's a regular shopping stop for my

daughters).

 

For older kids, pouches with colored stones to play with. Period games (fox &

geese, backgammon, etc.)

 

Mistress Orianna Fridrikskona

mother of Birgitta and Ingridr

AEthelmearc, East

 

 

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: sequel to: medieval maternity clothes.

From: una at bregeuf.stonemarche.org (Honour Horne-Jaruk)

Date: Thu, 23 Jan 97 11:37:44 EST

 

Russell Gilman-Hunt <rgh at continue.uoregon.edu> writes:

> Ok, so we're 12 c. Irish.  What would be appropriate wear for say, an,

> 18 day old girl?  how about a 1 year old girl?  Just linen and wool

> tunic-type things, or something specific?  What book would you use to

> document this?  I mean, we may just be doing diapers and tunics; but

> we'd like to be able to say "this is what she should be wearing."

>

> Conchobhar of Kamrun.

 

        Respected friend:

        At 18 days, swaddling clothes or mama's clothes (depending

on how "citified" her parents are or are not). In cities or with

people heavily influenced by Europe, swaddling clothes held on the

diapers; In rural areas and among the very poor, baby was wrapped

in a fold of Mama's (or Grandma's, at haying time) cloak or veil,

and when she got "that look" on her face, she'd be held away from

her caretaker's body until whatever mess it was hit the ground.

        Unlikely as it seems, it worked- and still works for large

swathes of rural Africa, Asia, Appalachia and Eastern Europe.

        For the first month of life, fake swaddling is actually a good

idea for most babies, as they still sleep better if their limbs can't

flail. Sew criss-cross strips on the front of a sleeveless bag-

sleeper, and use lacing up the back to make it snug.

        At one year, for city/rich, she would still be in swaddling

clothes most of the time; if already "toilet trained" (nothing like

our version at all) and _very_ rich, she'd be wearing simplified

versions of mama's clothes with a plain cap or hood in bad weather

and bare head in good (unless she was sickly, or somehow already

betrothed.) For rural/poor, she'd be naked in warm weather and under

blankets or Mama's cloak in bad - same reason as before.

        It's very hard for us to understand the effect of difficult,

expensive, very time-consuming laundry work on people's child-rearing

options. If it takes a day and a week's wages in soap to wash a week's

worth of diapers (at modern rate of use), people are going to figure

out some way not to do that. Odd, perhaps; but true.

 

                                Alizaunde, Demoiselle de Bregeuf

                                Una Wicca (That Pict)

                                (Friend) Honour Horne-Jaruk, R.S.F.

 

 

From: manth at ozemail.com.au (Aramanth Dawe)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Hauling infants around an event

Date: Sat, 17 May 1997 21:08:45 GMT

Organization: OzEmail Ltd - Australia

 

Joe Hayes <jhayes at compuserve.com> wrote:

 

>My lady just attended her first event along with our 14 month old son.  We soon realized that not having the

>stroller was going to be a problem (ie, carrying him around, chasing after him, putting him down for naps,

>etc).  I would appreciate feedback on how others cope with toddlers at events.

 

>Thanks,

>Ulrich von Landstuhl

 

I have 2 toddler daughters (28 mo and 13 mo).  One thing that helps

with the 'chasing around' is to use sets of reins. These are most

definately period!  I have a leather set that simply buckles on over

their clothing.  By holding on to the leash they cannot get away from

me, run onto a listfield without warning or be carted off by a

stranger!    It also makes it less likely that they will annoy those

not used to kids by wiping sticky fingers on the $400 silk gown of the

'pretty lady' nearby!

 

I do also bring along my stroller, together with a large plain cover

(a lightweight cloak is good) which I park in an unobtrusive place and

then cover.  If a nap is needed (mostly the 13 mo one these days) she

can be popped into it without too much fuss, with the cover pulled

back for light and air.  Anyone who makes an objection to such

arrangements (so far there have been none, even at a coronet

investiture) is welcome to take care of them for me!

 

Aramanth

--

From the Hallowed Portals of House le Mowbus.

Where someone was perceptive enough to name daughters for Goddesses of War,

and silly enough to be surprised when they lived up to it!

 

manth at ozemail.com.au

Aramanth Dawe,

Adelaide, Australia

 

 

From: idavis at ix.netcom.com(Irene Davis)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Hauling infants around an event

Date: 18 May 1997 18:13:07 GMT

 

>My lady just attended her first event along with our 14 month old son.

>We soon realized that not having the stroller was going to be a problem (ie,

>carrying him around, chasing after him, putting him down for naps,

>etc).  I would appreciate feedback on how others cope with toddlers at events.

>

>Ulrich von Landstuhl

 

Greetings Ulrich! When my kids were little they spent a LOT of time in

a baby carrier. When they were tiny I used a traditional cloth sling,

like the traditional carriers that you see in most third world nations.

As they got bigger we eventually purchased an aluminum framed baby

backpack. It doesn't look very period, but you could cover the

obviously modern parts pretty easily with cloth. The kids get pretty

used to them - just practice several times before you use them at an

event. I used to keep my hair braided - it hurts less when they pull a

braid than when they grab a handful of hair. My kids loved it because

they were right in the middle of things and could see everything that

was going on. Some of the carriers can be taken off and stood on the

ground safely - particularly handy when the kid has fallen asleep and

your back could use some rest. Best of Luck. Kids that age are a

serious challenge!

 

Eirny Thorvaldsdottir

 

 

Date: Mon, 9 Jun 1997 09:07:28 -0500 (CDT)

From: Cindy Morley <cmorley at comp.uark.edu>

To: sca-arts at raven.cc.ukans.edu

Subject: Re: Babies at Border Raids

 

I have an 18 month old little boy, and we have taken him to everything

since he was a newborn.  Some things to remember are that at his age he is

to young to wear sunscrean, so you will need to dress him in something

that covers him from the sun, however you also need to think of the heat.

One thing that I have found that works is those "bag" outfits.  They cover

the legs and arms, but can be made out of real light airy fabric.  Even

though he is breast-fed, I would suggest introducing a bottle now for

water.  I know that when it was hot Stuart would not want to breast feed

as often, but he needed extra liquid so he wouldn't dehydrate etc... Just

remember shade, loose clothing, extra liquids (for both of you)....

     Another thing we also did when Stuart was tiny that might help you in

future events.  We sang SCA songs to him as lullabyes and now we take him

to a post-revel and he just goes to sleep :)  

     If you have any specific questions about what has worked or not, just

e-mail me and I will see what I can come up with.

 

Christiaen

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~

cmorley at comp.uark.edu  Cindy Morley         Shire-March of the Grimfells

                       Christean Jansen      Kingdom of Calontir

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~

 

 

Date: Mon, 09 Jun 1997 10:10:43 -0500

From: Lark Miller <lucilla at ponyexpress.net>

To: sca-arts at raven.cc.ukans.edu

Subject: Re: Babies at Border Raids

 

When I had my baby in 1991, she was born the first of May. Memorial day

Weekend we took her to the Ten year anniversery of Atlantia, a three day

event.  Mary was three and a half weeks.  

 

Keep him in the shade.  

keep him hydrated, (nurse him as often as he wants). You must make sure you

drink plenty of fluids as well because if you get dehydrated then you won't

produce as much milk and he won't get enough fluids.  

Don't dress him in alot of clothes.  I have pictures that were taken of us

and she has on only a diaper. If you are worried he will get over heated,

how do you cool off?  a damp cool cloth, or a fan works great on babies

too. Lay him on a blanket with out anything on (put a open diaper or other

cloth under him in case of calls of nature)

 

Check with your doctor about sunscreen or bug repellent. If he says no

just put a misquito netting type of drape over him, tulle for wedding veils

works well.  Check for woodticks if you are in a wooded area daily, in

around the diaper area where they would seek the warmest spots.  My husband

brought the woodticks in so it wasn't that she was exposed but that others

had them and then crawled onto her.

 

Mary is now six years old.  She still likes to camp and we are all going to

Lillies for the week.  She was joined by a little sister and brother since.

They are three and one now.  

 

 

Date: Mon, 9 Jun 1997 14:04:29 -0700

From: Charlene Noto <charlenn at MICROSOFT.com>

To: "'sca-arts at raven.cc.ukans.edu'" <sca-arts at raven.cc.ukans.edu>

Subject: RE: Babies in Period

 

> From:      J. Patrick Hughes[SMTP:jphughes at raven.cc.ukans.edu]

> Are swaddling clothes the only way they handled babies in period???

 

I'm no expert on children's treatment or children's clothes in period. I

just recently read an interesting book on children's chothing (don't

have it here) that stated that swaddling was extremely common in period

and before. The practise was  supposed to be quite detrimental as it was

based on the idea that the babies legs and arms needed to be straight so

they kept them bound them that way. It also created a parcel that was

easy to manage. You see many portraits with babies bound like that. Look

for little baby parcels with strips wrapped around it. The book I read

also said that the poor may not have swaddled their babies but as they

were put to work rather early in their life, they too had a pretty hard

road. I also don't know how long they subjected their babies to this

before letting them have free movement of their arms and legs or when

they stopped the practise.

 

-Deirdre

 

 

Date: Tue, 10 Jun 1997 06:43:36 EDT

From: kathe1 at juno.com (Kathleen M Everitt)

To: sca-arts at raven.cc.ukans.edu

Subject: Re: Babies at Border Raids

 

On Sun, 08 Jun 1997 22:07:14 -0500 zaustin at netten.net writes:

>My son will be 6 weeks old as of  Border Raids, and I'd like to go...

>Is this feasable??

>What extra precautions should be taken???

>He's a breast-fed baby, so I can't leave him home with Grandma and

>Grandpa...

>Any advice??

>~Selina Duval de Broome (of Grey Niche)

 

I took my first son to his first event when he was 1 month old and my

second when he was 11 days old! The first was a Crown Tourney, the second

an indoor feast. It's feasible, with some planning. Take shade! Take lots

of extra cloths - for you and baby. Make sure the baby's garb is washable

cotton! Yours, too. And blankets in case the weather gets cold (I'm not

sure where Border Raids is. This may not be necessary.) Mosquito netting,

if necessary in your area. Take music to sooth him to sleep if necessary.

And take an extra pair of hands. Two or three work better! I had a large

wicker basket with a sun shade on it that I used for taking my boys to

events. And a household that loves kids. I carried containers of diapers

and diaper wipes in the revel chest, and I had a basket with more diaper

wipes, diapers, clothes, etc. packed just for the baby. The hardest part

will be saying no nicely to all the people that want to hold him. I found

that my kids did better if I kept the fuss to a minimum and tried to keep

a routine about feedings, naps, etc. similar to what we did at home. Most

of all, be prepared to leave if he doesn't deal with it well. Some kids

are born Scadians; some need to be introduced slowly.

 

Good luck.

Julleran

 

 

From: morgan <morgan at in-tch.com>

Date: Mon, 23 Jun 1997 16:57:58 -0600

Subject: Re: SC - Re: Sweeteners

 

VEARLEY at aol.com wrote:

>(snip)

>

> When I was pregnant, I was told that honey contains a bacteria (? or

> something - it's been a _long_ time!) that the human digestive system can't

> protect against before approximately one year old. Babies should _not_ be

> given honey or products made with honey until they'e at least a year old.

 

(snip)

 

This is correct.  It is botulin toxin whch is the problem. Once the

child is older, honey is safe, but a baby doesn't have the system

defenses "up and running" for a while.

 

Cooked items are not a problem - it is the raw honey which is risky.

 

Morgan of Hawksreach

 

 

From: chatziem at usa.net

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Period baby gifts....

Date: Thu, 09 Apr 1998 15:03:57 -0600

 

jen_guy at mindspring.com(Jenny Guy) wrote:

> On Sat, 04 Apr 1998 09:14:03 -0800, Mike Uglow <muglow at ix.netcom.com>

> wrote:

> :I am going to a baby shower. And the parents are both scadians, I want

> :to give some approprieate period gifts. I believe the Father has a

> :French persona and the Mother is more Eastern....

> :

> :Any suggestions are appreciated.

> :Sabine d'Armagnac de Bourgogne

>

> Having two boys (ages 5 and 2, and they've both been to every Pennsic

> since they were born),

>

> Don't laugh, my absolute salvation at more than one event has been a

> wide leather strap, about five or six feet long, with a hand loop at

> one end and a D-ring at the other to loop around a busy toddler's

> waist. Yes, it's a leash, and no, it's not cruel. It lets the child

> have some freedom of movement (read: I WANT TO WALK NOW!) and the

> parent feels much more secure (read: I can't believe my kid can run

> that fast!). Right now it's residing tethered to the handle of my two

> year old's stroller so my five year old can hold on with me and not

> steer the baby sideways. The little one is just about ready for the

> "I'm never going to ride in that terrible baby stroller again" stage,

> and the strap will return to it's original purpose.

 

Sabine,

 

I must second the recommendation for a tether for the toddlers.  I have a

3yo.  SHE (so that all these goode gentles can see that it is NOT just a

"little boy thing") is fast as lightening, her physical strength for

wriggling is outmatched only by her strength of will, and she is so smart.

They figure out how to make you put them down or pick them up at a moment's

notice.  And if they want to "look" at something, you will wind up there at

some point during the day, whether you wanted to or not. It is the nature of

the thing.

 

A tether is also very period!  Where do you think we get the saying about

"cutting the apron strings"?  Because the tether for the toddler was tied to

the apron ties around the neck or around the back of the mother, and around

the waist of the child.  The point is, the child was securely tethered to the

mother while she did her washing or her "putting by" so the child was "free"

to amuse him/herself and Mom still had a moment to do what needed to be done,

and both were aware of the other's activities/wherabouts at all times.

Please understand, they didn't have playpens (I don't think they did.  I

haven't seen any pictures of any....has anyone else?)  I can't tell you how

many times I have heard about a Mom who had become seperated from her toddler

and was frantic as a bee's nest until the wee one was located.

 

It is a sickening and frightening feeling when you can't locate your small

child, even for a few minutes, in a crowded area. (Happened to me at the Mall

once, of all places.  Someone tried to walk off with my daughter!)  Even at

an SCA event where you can be reasonably sure that your child wasn't

kidnapped, Mom is likely to be scared out of her wits because you don't know

if the child is ok or hurt or what.

 

The tether helps both Mom and child enjoy the event more. Each is secure in

knowing where the other is, and yet each can move about more freely, causing

fewer tantrums and a more relaxed and enjoyable time for all involved.

 

Another suggested baby gift is a "slinger" for the baby.  This is a large

piece of strong (but soft) cloth that is tied around the mother like a sling

over one shoulder, and the baby rests in the "hammock" of the sling in front

of Mom.  This helps Mom hold newborn close, but her hands are free for

shopping, eating, etc. and baby is all snuggly and feeling secure and close

to Mom.

 

Let's see.  The bibs that cover the shoulders as well as the chest, decorated

with period pictures.  I have one that was given to me when I was pregnant

with my daughter.  It is terry with an Aida insert in it. Three shields are

cross stitched on the insert.  One divided per bend or and checky.  One in

thirds per ferrul vert and or  counterchanged, and one per pale asure and

ermine.  It has come in handy for feast many a times.  She looked like she

was wearing a little baby tabbard!  I still have it, and will treasure it as

it was her first gift from a Noble, and her first SCA garb.  (sentimental old

fool that I am).  Period baby blankets (that is, baby blankets made from

period-acceptable colors instead of the usual nursery characters)  A stroller

disguise (to make the stroller look more like a period pram or cart)  covers

for the baby bottles.  They certainly did have baby bottles, but they didn't

look anything like what we have now, with all the cute critters and stuff.

They were plain, round, and often heavy.  A cover would help disguise the

deco on the outside.  Make sure that the top of the cover is elastic and fits

around the neck of the bottle.  If you use ribbon or string, there is a

slight chance that the baby may get it in their mouth and maybe choke.  The

elastic will not be accidentally untied by the tyke.

 

Baby garb.  Simple  bell-bottomed (flared bottom?) long tunic or gown long

enouph to cover the feet and little booties to match the top.  The poor Mom

will not be able to make enouph of these for one weekend event by herself.

They are like baby blankets......can't have too many. Baby is always messing

with, in, or on something....

 

If she is nursing, you may consider modifying a tunic or dress pattern to be

easier to nurse from.  I had one that had slits in it that were buttoned

closed and my tabbard covered them.  When I nursed, baby lay in the slinger,

thus consealing her face from lookers on, and my tabbard moved just enough

out of the way to allow for private, discreat nursing without exposing anyone

to any uncomfortable situation, and I was still able to stay in the class or

discussion I was participating in when the dinner bell rang.....if I did it

right, no one was ever the wiser that I was even feeding the baby at that

moment.  :-).

 

I am afraid that is all I can think of right now.  Hope this gives you a few

ideas.  At least somewhere to start.

 

Lady Chatzie Massey

Shire of Arenal, Kingdom of Meridies

 

 

From: lclacemker at aol.com (LCLacemker)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Re: Period baby gifts....

Date: 9 Apr 1998 22:01:04 GMT

 

In article <6gj9jd$ufc$1 at nnrp1.dejanews.com>, chatziem at usa.net wrote:

>Please understand, they didn't have playpens (I don't think they did.  I

>haven't seen any pictures of any....has anyone else?)

 

I've never seen play pens, but a friend who went to England told me that in one

place (Shakespeare's home, maybe? Drat my memory...) they had a device called a

child minder.  It was a metal bar with a circle on on end attached to a pole in

the middle of a room.  The kidlet would be put in the loop and the bar would

rotate around the pole providing some freedom of movement.

  

Lara the Lacemaker

AFRDGofL, HPtoGofCI, Wench#314, GSoP.

 

 

From: "Susan C. Mitchell" <susancm at primenet.com>

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Period baby gifts....

Date: 14 Apr 1998 02:37:00 -0700

 

LCLacemker <lclacemker at aol.com> wrote:

:chatziem at usa.net wrote:

:>Please understand, they didn't have playpens (I don't think they did.  I

:>haven't seen any pictures of any....has anyone else?)

:I've never seen play pens, but a friend who went to England told me that in one

:place (Shakespeare's home, maybe? Drat my memory...) they had a device called a

:child minder.  It was a metal bar with a circle on on end attached to a pole in

:the middle of a room.  The kidlet would be put in the loop and the bar would

:rotate around the pole providing some freedom of movement.

 

<non-member delurks and humbly greets the people on the bridge>

 

A picture of this item can be found in _Yesterday's Children:  The

Antiques and History of Childcare_, by Sally Kevill-Davies.  Most of the

material in this book is post-1600;  but there is *some* earlier material,

including baby minders, cow-horn nursing bottles (and some very depressing

baby-formula recipes), and a small print of a 14th-century "First Steps of

the Virgin Mary" that shows a rather nice three-wheeled baby walker.

 

<non-member relurks and inconspicuously gets off the bridge>

 

Susan

 

 

 

From: arialhakon at aol.com (ArialHakon)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Help w/babies & nursing at pennsic

Date: 16 Jul 1998 21:14:10 GMT

 

>I am looking for help, suggestions etc., for camping with a 6 month old. Garb?

>Gear? Absolute essentials?  I am a nursing mom, and my family thinks I'm nuts,

>so all help and support will be gratefully accepted.

>

>Ayala

 

Ah, for those good ol' days...mine is now 9!  My son went to his first event

when he was 6 weeks old, and has been attending ever since.  

 

First thing I would recommend is one of those portable playpens...the ones that

have a bottom.  Put the playpen in the back of the tent and it is a good place

for Jr. to sleep.  Put a few blankets down for a mattress, and maybe even a

light sheet for a cover over the top (nothing heavier, you want it to breathe

but keep insects out).  I found one of these to be invaluable, especially since

it provided not only a resting place but also a play place for mundane toys,

and it confined them enough that I didn't have sudden surprizes as to where Jr.

was at!  My son used this happily until he was about 3 years old and destroyed

it in a game of tag (we have a Norse Tent, open at both ends, and he would race

in, jump on our futon bed, jump over the edge of the playpen and land on the

soft layers of quilt...apparently the prefered way to reach "base").  

 

Second essential I found was a kid leash (although yours might not be very

mobile yet, you might consider it).  Even if the kid is crawling, having a

leash is great if you want to set Jr. down but don't want him wandering off the

tarp and eating the goose leavings (yes, this really happened to me, even

though I WAS watching him closely....Mom has to deal with the diaper sometime).

Make sure the leash is one of those harness types rather than attached to the

wrist.  Personally I felt that the German Liederhosen must have been invented

by a harried mom just for this purpose.

 

Personally, though I have seen them used, I never used the adjustable pet pens

that I have seen many people use to put their kids in. Yes, some do look like

a wickerwork fence, and they do allow a larger play area combined with

confinement from wandering away, but I have seen too many people pen their

toddlers up and then rarely check on the kid.  Meanwhile the shade moves and

the kid gets a really rotten case of sunburn.  

 

The shoulder slings and belly packs are nice to have, and help you keep your

hands free, but can be difficult if your kid is always trying to "bail out"

(mine did).  You might try it.  The packs you will have to buy commercial or

try sewing one on your own.  The slings you can buy commercial, or just get a

VERY strong material (I used upoholstery material or a wool blanket) and use a

very strong pin (like a penanular broach).  When using the sling, switch sides

periodically to ease shoulder ache.  

 

Third, and very important, is get some help.  Your lord may not be much of

help, expecially if he is a fighter and wants to fight all day.  This leaves

you either stuck in the encampment or forced to take Jr. everywhere you go (and

no matter what you do, little hands love to grab stuff at merchants and can be

a real pain for Constabling).  For that problem I have two suggestions.  One is

camp with someone else who has a little one, and trade off watching the kid.

Second, consider "hiring" someone....no, I don't mean keep the little one home!

It is amazing how many people out there are willing to trade watching a little

one for 2-4 hours a day in exchange for transportation and site fee.  In this

case make sure the duties of your would-be sitter are clearly spelled out

before the event, and proper behavior (not just proper behavior with the kid)

is carefully spelled out and agreed upon.  

 

Diapers...I used disposables.  Cloth diapers may be good for the kid, but the

mess of dumping a load and rinsing the diaper out is difficult at an event

where flush privies are not available (not to mention the possible health

hazard).  Lugging the soiled cloth home can be difficult, if not gross.

Disposables make this so much easier.  Potty training at an event can be done,

although it takes quite a bit of planning.  You need a tent in which you have a

little room.  You need a potty chair which you can put in a corner of your

tent, which will not get tipped over while you help your little one re-dress.

Take a liter or gallon bottle with you and empty the potty remains in the

nearest porta-priv (use the water from the bottle to wash out any problems).  

 

If you want a more period answer to teething pain than something that comes in

a tube, I recommend making your own clove oil.  Stuff as many cloves as you can

into a small jar, and fill it with vegetable oil (or olive oil, if you can

afford it) to the top of the cloves.  Let it set for at least a week, realizing

the longer you let it set, the stronger the cloves will be.  It is the cloves

which give the oil an anesthetic property.  It worked great for my kid, and he

even likes the taste of cloves now.  

 

Next, garb.  Garbing yourself can be easy.  A tabard over a drawstring neckline

isn't too bad....even a shawl will work if the kid doesn't object to something

covering.   The best nursing gown I saw was a Gates of Hell which allowed the

whole kid to be put inside, and the Cotardie had slits in which she could gain

access for nursing.  I've seen wenches gowns and shawls used (my favorite),

t-tunics with rather deep "t" cuts and fuller space allowed to shift the tunic

one way or another (I never got this one to work), shirts combined with skirts

rather than full dresses....be inventive.  As for fabrics, stick to the ones

easily washable.  Satins and Velvets are nice, but don't look good after being

spit up upon for the 3rd time.  

 

For kid, there is a wide variety of help.  Primarily I would recommend the

layered look, unless your kid is really into changing clothes frequently.  The

first layer, closest to the skin, should be made out of sheets or broadcloth

and be fairly cool for warm weather.  I'd have it have long sleaves, which will

help keep the sun of and keep the kid from getting sunstroke.  Second layer can

be made out of a sturdier material, and have shorter sleaves.  For really cold

times, add a fourth layer, this one with long sleaves again, made out of heavy

flannel or Upholstery material, and generously cut for the underlying layers

(you wouldn't want the kid's armpits to get in a bind). One trick I found to

be both practical and helpful in avoiding tantrums....favorite blankies (baby

size) can be folded in half, wrapped under one shoulder and pinned at the

other, and make excellent blanket cloaks for particularly cold nights.  Don't

have them wear it during the day, because they will get it too dirty....just at

night around the campsite.  MOST IMPORTANT:   MAKE SURE THAT EVERYTHING IS

WASHABLE!  Kids automatically gravitate to any muddy, messy place anywhere in

reach, and more than once I have just barely clothed my kid and had him come

back caked in mud.  Sweatpants make warm and acceptable trews, and hose is so

easy to get your hands on...although if you have a boy, try to get something

other than pastel colored ones.  For something easy to make and warm to use,

take an adult skiing sweater (one without a mundane design), and make the

sleaves short enough that your little one won't have his hands covered.  I used

an old sweater I had that the shoulders were starting to wear and run.  I used

the extra to make some matching trews.  Making clothes is easy, and uses up a

lot of scrap material that you would otherwise have to make into pouches or

something.  Even though it may not be period, however, I would use elastic

rather than draw strings.  Elastic wastebands allow the kid to go to the priv

without mom, and are essential during potty training. Elastic  around the leg

bottoms and wrists help keep out insects (such as ticks) and keep the material

under control while roasting marshmallows (for those all important evening

delights...Smores!).  Ties only get untied and in the way. Nice thing about

kid's garb is that you can experiment without spending a lot of money or

effort....if it doesn't work out, you have only wasted a yard or two.  A

caution though...don't try to put the kid in something complex (such as hoops,

corsets, slash-and-puff) unless they are too small to complain...otherwise

getting them to wear garb can be a struggle of wills. Get the kid used to

wearing some kind of cap at night.  Since most of the heat is lost through the

head, wearing a knitted cap or even a coif will help keep the kid warm.    

 

Toys...toys can be both a parent's savior and biggest pain. Getting a

determined mundane kid to take an interest in his more period...or period

looking...toys at events is a lesson in frustration.  I have heard of parents

who set aside period toys to only play with at events, but this only works if

the kid is interested in the toys in the first place.  I tried the technique of

only allowing wooden toys (wooden cars, wooden planes, etc.), but it worked

only marginally.  I finally gave up and just tried to have him play with his

toys in the privacy of our own encampment.  As they grow older, this becomes

easier and easier to control, and you find "acceptable" things for them to play

with (like nerf bows).  If you bring games for them to play, make sure the

peices are easy to replace, and be prepared to replace parts every event.  Be

careful with books too, because even hardback covers can get ripped off when

trampled by little feet (mine never seemed to get put away).  Have a separate

box for kid's entertainments, and do your best to have him pick up and put away

before evening dinner (otherwise the stuff gets lost in the night or gets

destroyed by dew).  After dinner is an excellent time for helping clear the

dishes,  a story around the fireplace, smores, stargazing, and maybe even a

stroll around the campground with Papa.  Older kids can even do dishes,

although if they tend to get wet you might want them to do them around lunch

time (and even 3 year olds can help rinse the dishes, although they sometimes

get sidetracked into waterplay....handy at those particularly hot events).

 

Bathing...let's face it, kids get dirty.  An inflatable pool makes a great

emergency bathtub and doesn't take up much room in the packing, although be

sure to have some cold water in it before pouring in any hot water from the

stove (melting plastic is messy).  Try to pick a kid's shampoo or liquid soap

that is environmentally friendly, because there will be sloshes (and don't do

this in a tent, unless you can pull a tarp back and reach bare ground...and the

ground drains well).  A cup or bowl helps wet those areas that stick out of the

water, and the kids love to pour the water back and forth. Use dark colored

towels, so you don't get so concerned if they get a little stained.  We have a

separate sunshade in which we put up sheets we have made into curtains that we

can convert into a place to bath in privacy.

 

Well, I am sure there ae a few things I forgot, but feel free to e-mail me with

any questions you might have.  Don't be afraid of approaching other mothers at

events either...most of us will talk your ear off about our experiences.  

 

Good Luck, and don't forget to sunscreen EVERYWHERE (even the tyke's hair and

diaper area...you never know when they decide to become nudists!)

 

Yours in service,

Arial Haakonarstedir

(who's kid would have been born at Crown, but went into early labor...and has

been attending events ever since).        

 

 

From: Gretchen M Beck <grm+ at andrew.cmu.edu>

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Strollers at Pennsic

Date: Tue, 18 Aug 1998 13:50:37 -0400

Organization: Help Center, Carnegie Mellon, Pittsburgh, PA

 

Excerpts from netnews.rec.org.sca: 17-Aug-98 Re: Strollers at Pennsic by

Dan Smith at blaze.apsc.com

> >Not quite a stroller, but:

> >There is a (15th ct manuscript?) painting of Mary weaving on a bandloom;

> >in the room with her, a baby is in a walker.  It doesn't have a seat,

> >IIRC, but it is a little square wooden framework of round dowels, with 4

> >wheels on the bottom of the uprights, and the top is where the baby can

> >grasp it.

> >

> >Tamar

> Thanks for the input.  

 

I believe this is the Hours of Catherine of Cleves -- of which there is

an excellent publication, possibly available at your local library.

 

toodles, margaret

 

 

Date: Thu, 18 Feb 1999 21:37:28 EST

From: Bronwynmgn at aol.com

Subject: Re: SC - Re: Babies and diapers

 

stefan at texas.net writes:

<< I think I remember the comment. And I've got the book around here,

somewhere.

The problem is locating it. The book was wonderful and by using various odd

records such as court records filled in many questions on childhood and later

stages in medieval life, especially the life of peasants. I remember it's

comments disproving the ideas of extended families. Most of the info was

drawn from records in England in a single century or two. >>

 

I know Barbara Hanawalt's book The Ties That Bound has a lot of this sort of

information in it.  She works off of the coroner's rolls (in England during

most of the Middle Ages, any accidental death had to be investigated to

determine the circumstances, and there were coroners appointed for each shire

who had the responsibility to do this).  In some cases the information is

surprisingly complete - who found the body first, any information that might

help determine the cause, eyewitness reports, etc.  It's quite fascinating.

Babies frequently died as a result of cradle fires, as a result of chickens

scratching/dropping coals into the cradle which was situated next to the

hearth for warmth.  They also died when they were accidentally dropped into

the fire (often by drunken mothers), when spits broke and dumped pots of

scalding liquids on them, and when pigs came into the house and mauled the

baby.

 

She doesn't just focus on babies.  She looks at causes of accidental death of

all ages over the course of the year and the course of the day, as well as the

occupations or jobs that were being done at the time of death.  There's an

amazing amount of info here, in little snapshots, about peasant life.  For

instance - women frequently used straw to get the coals into a good fire in

the morning.  Some of them fell off the ladders they had placed against the

haystack to climb to the top to get straw to start the fire, and that's how

we know that they used straw.

 

Brangwayna Morgan

 

 

Date: Thu, 18 Feb 1999 20:24:14 -0800

From: roscelin at ibm.net

Subject: Re: SC - Re: Babies and diapers

 

> I know Barbara Hanawalt's book The Ties That Bound has a lot of this sort of

> information in it.

 

For those looking for it, the bibliographic information is:

 

Barbara A. Hanawalt

The Ties That Bound:  Peasant Families in Medieval England

New York:  Oxford University Press.

ISBN 0-19-503649-2

ISBN 0-19-504564-5

 

The blurb on the back list by the same author:

 

Crime and Conflict in English Communities, 1300-1348

(ed) Women and Work in Preindustrial Europe

 

Donna Franke

SCA:  Helen Rose Winfield

 

 

Date: Tue, 17 Aug 1999 17:36:24 -0400

From: Mary_HallSheahan at ademco.com

Subject: Re: SC - "Chocolate in a Period Form"

 

OKeydokey offtopic we go.  Regarding <<baby strollers at events>>

 

I hate to reveal ideas for projects I haven't begun, but I'll probably

never be a good enough woodworker to do this anyway so maybe it'll get done

by another...

 

NYC's Morgan Library has an illumination refered to as "The Holy Family at

Work".  Shows Mary at her loom, Joseph at a turned-down-window planing some

wood, and the baby Jesus toddling around in a baby walker. Two wagon

wheels, some supports, a leather sling for His Babiness, and small wheels

at the bottom.  This is on a postcard, only wish I could find it again.

 

Let me know if anyone sees this done,

Emme

 

 

From: moondrgn at bga.com (Chris and Elisabeth Zakes)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Babies & Children in the SCA

Date: Fri, 27 Aug 1999 04:36:44 GMT

 

An orbiting mind control laser caused mayfair13a at aol.com (Mayfair13a)

to write:

>My Husband & I are busy prepairing for next years camping season w/a new baby.

>Could we please have some advice.  Also interested in what folks have made for

>their babies, strollers, garb, etc.  Help!!

 

Probably the two most useful baby items I've had over the years were a

*very* adaptable back/tummy pack for carrying the baby and a clip-on

bottle holder that I could hang off my belt.

 

The backpack allowed me to have the baby right there, but still

allowed me to do things like serve feasts or chop wood. The bottle

holder meant the bottle was immediately available when it was needed,

but left my hands free when it wasn't needed.

 

        -Tivar Moondragon

                Ansteorra

 

C and E Zakes

Tivar Moondragon (Patience and Persistence)

and Aethelyan Moondragon (Decadence is its own reward)

moondrgn at bga.com

 

 

From: Rayne/Richard <PRIDEelectric at centuryinter.net>

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Babies & Children in the SCA

Date: Thu, 26 Aug 1999 23:55:48 -0500

 

Sorry, but got to put my 2 sense worth in on a comment below:

 

Michael Z. Williamson wrote:

> Diaper wipes: Even adults should have them for cleaning hands, etc.  Can't

> have too many.

 

My sister (the Microboilogist) did product testing for years and something she always said was:  Diaper wipes are for baby's bottoms:  NOT FOR HANDS, FACES, ETC.  The FDA requirements for Facial wipes are different.  The level of sanitation for diaper wipes is much lower than for faces and hands which can go into the mouth.  On one diaper wipe brand (a name brand) she found traces of rat feces.  It still passed as the diaper wipe was meant to wipe bottoms and only bottoms.  No chance of human consumption - UNLESS someone used it to wipe faces and hands and the baby then sucked their fingers.  Read the labels.

OFF the soapbox.  :-)

 

Rayne

 

 

From: Andrea Hicks <maridonna at worldnet.att.net>

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Infant walker illustration

Date: Wed, 02 Feb 2000 14:04:57 GMT

 

While searching for another subject in _The Hours of Catherine of Cleve_

intro and commentaries by John Plummer, Geo. Braziller, Inc. N.Y.,

publisher, I found a baby walker.  It is in "Satruday Hours of the

Virgin - Sext, plate 92. _Holy Family at Work_.

It shows the Baby walking around in a very simple wooden walker. More

like a frame with wheels.

 

In plate 11., _The Visitation_ it shows infant John the Baptist

partially surrounded by a

three sided woven or wicker wall. Possibly a playpen?  There are no

comments on it by Plummer.

--

Lady Maridonna Benvenuti

 

 

From: "JoAnn Abbott" <josco at theriver.com>

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Infant walker illustration

Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2000 23:23:46 -0700

 

There is an iron baby walker in the house in which Shakespeare was allegedly

born.  It is attached to a center pole in the (tiny) kitchen with a straight

bar and that child can only walk in circles around the pole.  You can tell

it was used a lot- there is a marked groove in the flagstone floor where the

little ones must have walked.

     Sort of reminds me of the beginning of Conan the barbarian, where he is

a kid pushing around a mill stone....

 

JoAnna S.T.

 

 

From: Andrea Hicks <maridonna at worldnet.att.net>

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Infant walker illustration

Date: Thu, 03 Feb 2000 10:42:57 GMT

 

Hasoferet wrote:

> >While searching for another subject in _The Hours of Catherine of >Cleve_

> >intro and commentaries by John Plummer, Geo. Braziller, Inc. N.Y.,

> >publisher, I found a baby walker.  It is in "Satruday Hours of the

> >Virgin - Sext, plate 92. _Holy Family at Work_.

> >It shows the Baby walking around in a very simple wooden walker. More

> >like a frame with wheels.

>

> When's the manuscript from?

>

> Raquel

 

The exact date is unknown but the researcher are sure between 1428 - 1445.

--

Maridonna Benvenuti

 

 

From: noramunro at aol.comclutter (Alianora Munro)

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Infant walker illustration

Date: 03 Feb 2000 19:12:58 GMT

 

There's also a baby walker depicted on a majolica plate, from an Italian "birth

set" of c. 1540, in the St Mungo Museum of Religious Life and Art in Glasgow,

Scotland.  It looks like sort of a cubical framework made from dowels, and

perhaps on casters rather than wheels (or at least the dinkiest wee wheels

imaginable).  The St Mungo Museum is in the cathedral precinct in Glasgow, just

across the square from the cathedral, and they have the most amazing collection

of odds and ends of stuff.  Worth a look if you ever find yourself in Glasgow.

;-)

 

Regards,

Alianora Munro, Bright Hills, Atlantia

 

 

From: Gerry Adams <savaskan at sd.znet.com>

Newsgroups: rec.org.sca

Subject: Re: Infant walker illustration

Date: Sun, 06 Feb 2000 00:25:34 -0800

 

Andrea Hicks wrote:

> While searching for another subject in _The Hours of Catherine of Cleve_

> intro and commentaries by John Plummer, Geo. Braziller, Inc. N.Y.,

> publisher, I found a baby walker.  It is in "Satruday Hours of the

> Virgin - Sext, plate 92. _Holy Family at Work_.

> It shows the Baby walking around in a very simple wooden walker. More

> like a frame with wheels.

>

> In plate 11., _The Visitation_ it shows infant John the Baptist

> partially surrounded by a

> three sided woven or wicker wall. Possibly a playpen?  There are no

> comments on it by Plummer.

> --

> Lady Maridonna Benvenuti

 

There are several  of the centerseat walkers shown in German 16th c

woodcuts.  In "Yesterday's Children, The Antiques and History of Childcare"

by Sally Kevill-Davies,  it shows a late 14th c walker from an embroidered

panel called First Steps of the Virgin. The walker is a three wheeled push

walker. The book also shows some high chairs and mentions that in 1473,

Bartholomew Mettlinger wrote "A Regimen for Young Children". He recommended

that parents construct a little pen of leather. The book states various

other wooden contraptions were used from an early date.

 

There is also a little potty shown in Breugel's Children's Games.

 

Juliana, OL Caid

 

 

From: Chris Zakes <moondrgn at earthlink.net>

Date: April 27, 2006 7:15:22 AM CDT

To: moiranliam at earthlink.net, "Kingdom of Ansteorra - SCA, Inc."  

<ansteorra at ansteorra.org>

Subject: [Ansteorra] A subject change...

 

> Two kids under the age of 2 makes eventing.. tricky for me and Liam.  So,

> keeping in mind I can NOT be the first woman to bring smalls to an event, I

> seek the wisdom of those who have pulled this off (eventing with babies).

> They're too small for children's activities, our closest family is in

> Biloxi, and it's not like we can leave them at home like cats where they

> get a big bowl of food and a warning about keggers. Hints, tips, tricks?

>

> Moira Lindsay

 

This is taken from my answer to a similar question on the Rialto some  

years ago...

 

Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. (3 times)

 

1. Invest in a portable crib. They are invaluable as playpens during  

the day, don't take up too much space in the tent/crash space at  

night, and can be packed relatively easily.

 

2. Invest in a good backpack/carrier. We used one that was basically  

a pouch with long straps, and could be used as a front, back, or side

pack. This is great for carrying/cuddling the baby and leaving your  

hands free. I've worn it while serving feasts, doing site preperation  

(including cutting down a small tree with an axe one time--baby  

Robert thought that was great fun) attending classes and meetings, etc.

 

3. Realize that babies don't just take up time, they take up space.  

Counting carseat, portable crib, diaper bag, extra diapers, clothes,  

etc., your baby will need nearly as much transport space as an adult.  

You may need a bigger car (and tent).

 

4. Remember your priorities. The baby comes before fighting or court  

or A&S projects or whatever. Unless you hold the bardic circle outside

your own tent, one of you will have to stay with Junior if the other  

one wants to go out and party. On the other hand, if you have the  

bardic circle by your tent, the noise will probably keep her awake  

(and fussy).

There may be times when the only reasonable thing to do is to take  

your family home, rather than try to endure the heat/cold/rain or  

whatever surprises the Ansteorran weather has in store that weekend.

 

5. You *could* leave the little tyke with Grandma, but don't be  

surprised if he shows no interest in the SCA when bigger. Our three  

were all going to events within a few weeks of birth, and loved it.

 

6. Some folks use an "SCA babysitter", someone who helps with the kid  

in exchange for transportation and site/feast fees. I've never tried

it, so I can't comment, but it sounds like a good idea.

 

7. Pack *lots* of extra clothes. kids & dirt are like magnets & iron.

 

8. If there are other families in your group, see about networking  

and trading kid-juggling for a while. On the plus side, you've got  

extra eyes and hands if you get overwhelmed. On the minus side, if  

your ideas on discipline and behaviour don't match, you're going to  

have friction.

 

9. If at all possible, plan ahead with your spouse, and be willing to  

make sacrifices. "Well, I really want to do X. If you can watch Small

then, I'll watch her during court so you can go herald."

 

10. Pack kid-food for lunch and feast. The average 2-year old  

probably won't be interested in eels seethed in wine, no matter *how*  

period it

is. Especially if feast is after court and court is running late. . .  

Use things that don't require refrigeration whenever feasible, since  

even the best ice chest isn't perfect.

 

11. Teach your kids basic SCA rules: Don't touch other people's stuff  

without asking, knives and fires are dangerous, etc. (We taught our

kids"HOLD" while crossing the street.) Take the time to show them  

dangerous situations and explain why they are dangerous. For example,

The site has a river on one boundary. Make time to take the kid(s)  

down and let them see it and maybe throw a few rocks in. Explain that

you can't go swimming now because it's too cold, or you don't have  

your suits, or swimming time is later when everybody can go. Make sure

they understand that Daddy or Mother has to come with, to go look at  

the river again. (My youngest daughter is reading over my shoulder  

and comments "I remember that.")

 

12. Set reasonable boundaries for the bigger kids. "Don't go past  

this tree, and this tent, and don't cross that road. Stay off the  

list field, of course, otherwise, have fun." Watch toddlers  

carefully--they're old enough to find trouble, but not old enough to  

avoid it. Remember that portable crib/playpen? It's still useful.

 

12. Try to have SCA-appropriate toys, but don't be fanatical about  

it. Be *very* careful about toy swords; most of them can still hurt if

used with force. Our kids have a rule of "only hit people who are  

wearing armor", and we give them the opportunity to take a few shots

at Mother or Daddy when they are in armor.

 

13. It's never too early to start teaching courtesy. It's much easier  

to teach "please" and "thank you" when they are learning to talk, than

to suddenly spring it on them at age 7.

 

         -Tivar Moondragon

 

 

From: Jennifer Smith <jds at randomgang.com>

Date: April 27, 2006 9:48:19 AM CDT

To: moiranliam at earthlink.net, "'Kingdom of Ansteorra - SCA,  Inc.'"  

<ansteorra at ansteorra.org>

Subject: [Ansteorra] RE: ... and a subject change...

 

Small children in the SCA! What fun.  I haven't done TWO children under the

age of two, and I can imagine that it would be a bigger-than-normal handful.

Still, what works for me with an almost-2 and a 6 year old:

 

I echo bringing along a portable playpen/crib thingy, at least while they're

not walking yet. Very nice to be able to set down a child and not have to

worry about them crawling through the dirt and stickers! We used one while

camping, and occasionally when day-tripping.

 

Otherwise, we use a giant wooden wagon most heavily. Early on we invested in

the Radio Flyer ATW wagon, wood sides and a weight limit of 250lbs. When

it's not hauling our stuff, it's hauling kids, or serving as a bed for the

youngest for naptime or at night. I even change diapers on it. It's padded

with a quilted sleep mat that rolls up for storage. The oldest has finally

outgrown it (just in time for the youngest to switch to it, which we're

working on...)  It was expensive, but probably the best baby-gear  

purchase we've ever made. Plus, it's a toy!

 

Having the regular help of friends is a must-have. You can only do so much

switching off between parents, especially if you have more than one child

that needs to be supervised.

 

Bathroom breaks -- shudder.  I regularly scout out sites to figure out the

best facilities to use, PARTICULARLY when toilet training or with newly

toilet-trained kids.  For camping, we actually have our own portable toilet

seat with "pack-it-in/pack-it-out" drychem bags that backpackers use.  For

primitive sites, that or a handicapped port-a-potty are your best bets;

never try to take a small child into a regular-sized port-a-potty.

 

Always bring lots of munchies and such that won't go bad. My kids will

largely eat anything, and frequently mooch off of anyone around them (sigh),

but some children are far more picky. I'm way more picky during feast than

my kids are! A long feast typically won't hold their attention span either,

so be prepared to either not do feast, or get up a lot, or leave early.

 

When my oldest was 2 or so, she abruptly stopped wanting to drink from her

sippy cup at events. She kept grabbing at my mug. Took me a while to figure

out that she wanted her own mug! I managed to find a small child-sized

pottery mug with a nice handle, and she toddled around with that thing full

of water for the next several years until it met an untimely end on a

concrete floor. We're now on mug #2, and I can always be sure that she's

drinking plenty of water because she hardly sets it down. Kid #2 figured

out at Crown Tourney that her sippy cup fits perfectly inside dad's metal

tankard, and stole it, leaving him with no cup!  What the heck, a tankard

with a sippy lid still looks better than a bright orange plastic  

sippy cup. :)

 

As soon as the oldest kid can walk, get them their own little camp chair.

You can usually find cheap folding camp chairs to mimic the larger ones at

Walmart or Target. The most "just like mom & dad" stuff, the better.

 

Camping at events can be a chore during setup and take down, and is when a

portable playpen comes in most handy, unless you have lots of extra hands. I

am still tied to the tent at night (kids won't fall asleep without mom

nearby), and so the most going out I get to do is to sit right outside the

door. In case of the occasional screaming fit, we don't like to camp right

in the middle of things, so this means I've forfeited most of my nighttime

socializing. Bummer, but eh. Some things you gotta give up.

 

No matter how late at night, I don't give up court, however. Neither kid

wants to sleep as long as there's still stuff going on, so at worst I have

to stand up in the back of court trying to get the youngest cranky one to

settle down. (A crying kid in the front of court is never a good thing.)

 

At one point we started hauling along a wooden box of SCA-only toys; we've

gotten out of the habit, but now with the youngest hitting 2 next month I

think it's about time to redo the box.  It always had paper or coloring

books, crayons, one or two small stuffed animals or a cloth doll, and a few

other odds and ends like that. Nothing that you will care if it gets

accidentally lost or destroyed, but likewise nothing that is bright  

plastic and makes electronic beeping noises.

 

The HARDEST thing I've ever had to deal with was bottle-feeding.

(Breast-feeding is sooooo much more portable!) I always brought my own

bottled water, liners, and powdered formula, and just reused the same bottle

and nipple over and over (being sure to rinse it out good). Ugh. Luckily

both my kids took room-temp water, so I never had to figure out how  

to warm a bottle or keep one cold or anything like that.

 

At bare minimum, when daytripping, we always bring the wagon, a few bottles

of water (easier than bugging the waterbearers), animal crackers, mugs, and

the must-have blankies. (And garb, of course.)  OH and spare diapers.  Stash

some in the car just in case!

 

-Emma

 

 

From: Chris Zakes <moondrgn at earthlink.net>

Date: April 27, 2006 8:15:17 PM CDT

To: "Kingdom of Ansteorra - SCA, Inc." <ansteorra at ansteorra.org>

Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] RE: ... and a subject change...

 

> Otherwise, we use a giant wooden wagon most heavily. Early on we invested in

> the Radio Flyer ATW wagon, wood sides and a weight limit of 250lbs.  When

> it's not hauling our stuff, it's hauling kids, or serving as a bed for the

> youngest for naptime or at night. I even change diapers on it. It's padded

> with a quilted sleep mat that rolls up for storage. The oldest has finally

> outgrown it (just in time for the youngest to switch to it, which we're

> working on...)  It was expensive, but probably the best baby-gear  

> purchase we've ever made. Plus, it's a toy!

 

I'll second that. Particularly for big events like Pennsic or Gulf  

War, a wagon is *very* useful. We used ours to haul kids, ice,  

fighting gear, ice chests, etc. Done carefully, you can perch a kid  

on top of (for example) an ice chest with other gear packed around  

it--they get a fun ride, you get everything there in one trip.

 

(more snippage)

 

> The HARDEST thing I've ever had to deal with was bottle-feeding.

> (Breast-feeding is sooooo much more portable!) I always brought my own

> bottled water, liners, and powdered formula, and just reused the same bottle

> and nipple over and over (being sure to rinse it out good). Ugh.  Luckily

> both my kids took room-temp water, so I never had to figure out how  

> to warm a bottle or keep one cold or anything like that.

 

About a month after our oldest was born, I made a leather bottle  

carrier with a snap-hook--one of the best ideas I've ever had. That  

way the bottle can be mounted on a belt or clipped to the diaper bag;  

it's right there when you need it, but out of the way when you don't.

 

         -Tivar Moondragon

 

 

From: "Elisabeth B. Zakes" <kitharis at gmail.com>

Date: April 27, 2006 6:26:06 AM CDT

To: moiranliam at earthlink.net, "Kingdom of Ansteorra - SCA, Inc."  

<ansteorra at ansteorra.org>

Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] a subject change...

 

> Two kids under the age of 2 makes eventing.. tricky for me and Liam.  So,

> keeping in mind I can NOT be the first woman to bring smalls to an event, I

> seek the wisdom of those who have pulled this off (eventing with babies).

> They're too small for children's activities, our closest family is in

> Biloxi, and it's not like we can leave them at home like cats where they

> get a big bowl of food and a warning about keggers. Hints, tips, tricks?

>

> Moira Lindsay

 

The way Tivar and I worked it is that all of us went to the event, and

we traded around who had the "kid duty" for the day (or for the half

day). If there was an event I really wanted to fight at, he would set

up by the side of the list field with all the support equipment for

whichever child it was at the time, manage the baby, and cheer me on.

I did the same for him. If there was a meeting we both needed to go to

and the child was small enough, we took her with us, and if the child

got restless, whoever had the duty would excuse herself and leave.

(Sometimes the baby would get passed around the meeting. <G>) We would

look at the events coming up and split the duty as evenly as we could

so that neither of us felt we were always on duty.

 

All our children were attending events from day 3 of life. Just make

sure you plan ahead for anything, and bring along the half-ton of

stuff needed (a baby instantly doubles the amount of stuff you need to

take to an event). Portable cribs, plenty of cooling space for foods

and milk, etc. Plastic bags and ziplocks. Look at what you need at

home, and duplicate it for events. There's a lot of "camping" versions

of just about everything, just look for it. If you can't duplicate

(space, money, etc.), then try to get camping or mobile versions in

the first place and just take everything with you that way.

 

But it can be done, and can be done without grief. Why leave them at

home? They'll grow up in a unique environment, and learn a whole lot

without even realising it. Heck, they may even pitch in and help when

they're old enough to walk and talk!

 

You know you're in the SCA when you teach your daughter to peel

potatoes by telling her, "You hold the potato like a crossbow and ..."

:)

 

Aethelyan Moondragon

Bryn Gwlad

 

 

From: Jennifer Dudley <jen at clancircle.com>

Date: July 10, 2007 11:02:17 AM CDT

To: "Kingdom of Ansteorra - SCA, Inc." <ansteorra at lists.ansteorra.org>

Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] OT?: SCA baby

 

For the first few years of my daughter's life, she and I would go to events

alone.  I made sure that I had friends to share a pavilion with so that I

didn't have to cart that around.  I didn't travel as much and usually went

to local events and didn't camp with her until she was 3 and I was sure she

would sleep thru the night and wouldn't disturb other campers.  If I knew I

was working at that event, she either helped me or I had a friend watch her,

or she stayed home with daddy who didn't mind that either. I made good

friends with a couple who had a child that age and shared duties.

  

Now that my lord attends events with me again, we tag team.  I never carried a  

playpen or stroller with me, since I liked to sit under the pavilion  

with my baby and let her play on a large blanket.  Many people in the SCA  

like to "steal babies" (to get their baby fix) so I always got a break.

 

Make sure that you do bring your children so that they learn at the toddler

age what behavior is appropriate.  Play the "hold" game when they can walk

and listen.  It's kind of light red light green light, but you tell them

hold, so they learn what that means around list fields. My 4 yr old has

learned to be quiet during court (even though she complains about sitting

there), but I make sure she knows that everyone goes to court and is quiet

and listens.  She is also getting into archery now so goes and stays with me

at the range, and is learning the rules for behavior there.

 

Lady Brenna MacDonald

Westgate

 

On 7/10/07, Susan McMahill <sueorintx at hotmail.com> wrote:

> My son was older when we started with the SCA, but there is one thing I

> have thought of while watching parents of young children at events.  Hire a

> 'nurse' or 'governess' for the event. It is perfectly 'period' to have

> someone else to assist with the care of young children so that in the event

> that mom and/or dad want/need to be somewhere, their child/ren are being

> cared for by someone they know and trust. I see plenty of tweens and teens

> wandering about looking bored. Perhaps there is one in your group that

> wouldn't mind earning a few pence or a bauble or trinket for babysitting for

> part or all of the event. If you have a non-SCA babysitter that you trust,

> perhaps paying their site fee and providing them with a t-tunic or something

> in the line of garb in addition to some compensation would entice them to

> help you out at an event. I know it's an added expense, but it's worth a

> thought as well as piece of mind and less frayed nerves.

>

> Lyneya

 

 

From: Chelsea Durham <baby_sis_83 at hotmail.com>

Date: July 10, 2007 11:03:24 AM CDT

To: ansteorra at lists.ansteorra.org

Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] OT?: SCA baby

 

About the body harness: The people that give you grief about them have

obviously never chased a 2 year old through the mall, so tell them that.

When my kid starts walking, that's the first thing I'm buying. I've at least

had enough experience chasing my niece through the mall that I think a body

harness is God's gift to mankind.

 

-Lady Grainne Kathleen NicPadraig MacDaniel

 

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