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Scottish marriage and handfasting.

 

NOTE: See also the files: p-marriage-msg, Ger-marriage-msg, weddings-msg,  bastards-msg, p-customs-msg, burials-msg, p-weddings-bib, wed-FAQ.

 

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[Submitted by Brother Cleireac of Inisliath (Hank Harwell <cleireac at juno.com>)]

From: Aidan Carey <ecelt at yahoo.com>

To: PerRel p <perrel at egroups.com>

Date: Wed, 14 Jul 1999 14:37:06 -0700 (PDT)

Subject: [PerRel] Fwd: [celt] Handfasting

 

>From the Celtic Christianity mailing list.  --Aidan

 

--- Bryan Maloney <bjm10 at cornell.edu> wrote:

> Date: Tue, 13 Jul 1999 17:39:58 -0400

> To: celt at chersonese.com

> From: Bryan Maloney <bjm10 at cornell.edu>

> Subject: [celt] Handfasting

>

> Since this question has come up on this list, I present what I've been able

> to glean on the subject.  The following is from Sharon Krossa

> (krossa at alumnae.mtholyoke.edu), who did her PhD Dissertation on Scottish

> marriage customs, history, and law:

>

> As long ago as 1958 Anton wrote a very thorough article [Anton, AE

> (1958) Handfasting in Scotland. _The Scottish Historical

> Review_ XXXVII.124: 89-102] that carefully examined the origins of

> the myth of "Celtic trial marriage" and clearly demonstrated that

> it derived from modern misunderstanding of historical

> Scottish betrothal and marriage.

>

> The term "handfasting" comes from the medieval Scottish (and English)

> tradition of joining the hands of the couple as part of the public

> betrothal proceedings.  It is a *late medieval* term (and so what I

> explain below is true for late medieval Scotland.) In Scotland it was

> *not* a kind of marriage, either permanent or temporary. (I emphasise

> this because many people, including myself until I started researching

> the subject, are under the misconception that it was some kind of

> trial/temporary marriage.)  The real medieval practice was that

> handfasting was a synonym for *betrothal*, that is, for getting engaged

> to be married. IT WAS NOT MARRIAGE!  Not _historically_. If modernly the

> term is also used to mean a form of marriage, it is completely unrelated

> to the historical practice.  Anton [in Anton, AE (1958) Handfasting in

> Scotland. _The Scottish Historical Review_ XXXVII.124: 89-102] gives

> some nice primary-source details on the form of marriage ceremonies, and

> references to procedures used. It seems that the major difference

> between a handfasting/betrothal and a marriage ceremony is that, at the

> betrothal, the couple promises to get married in the future while, in

> the marriage ceremony, they consent to marriage in words of the present

> (and thus, well, actually get married). The forms as quoted in Anton are

> remarkably similar, with really only a change in the tense of the

> couple's promises.  Who says words aren't powerful? Make a slip of the

> tongue, and a couple could end up married instead of just betrothed!

> Here is the lowdown on the *historical* practice of handfasting:

>

> If, in medieval Scotland, a couple consented to marriage in the present

> tense, then they were *married* -- they were not handfasted, they were

> *married*. It did not matter if there were any witnesses or not.

> Witnesses only made it easier to prove. It did not matter if a priest

> was present, or not. It did not matter if the marriage was blessed, or a

> mass followed, or not. It did not even matter if the marriage was

> consumated, or not. (This was true in Scotland until 1940.)

>

> If, in medieval Scotland, a couple formally became betrothed, that is,

> promised to marry each other sometime in the *future*, with witnesses,

> marriage contract, and ceremony, then they were handfasted, that is,

> they were *engaged* to be married.  They were *not* married.

>

> -----begin quote-----

> A Scottish protocol narrates that on 24 July 1556, the Vicar of Aberdour

> 'ministrat and execut the office anent the handfasting betwix Robert

> Lawder younger of the Bass and Jane Hepburn docter to Patrick Errl

> Botwell in thir vordis following: "I Robert Lawder take thow Jane

> Hepburne to my spousit wyf as the law of the Haly Kirk schawis

> andthereto I plycht thow my trewht and syklyk I the said Jane Hepburne

> takis you Robert Lawder to my spousit husband as the law of the Haly

> Kirk schaws and therto I plycht to thow my trewth," and execut the

> residew of the said maner of handfasting conforme to the consuetud usit

> and wont in syk casis.' What this 'consuetude' was may be gathered from

> a protocol on the sponsalia of David Boswell of Auchinleck and Janet

> Hamilton, daughter of the Earl of Arran. After the consents had been

> exchanged 'the curate with the consent of both parties with their hands

> joined betrothed the said David and Janet who took oath as is the custom

> of the Church'

> -----end quote-----

>

> Note that a "protocol" here refers to a protocol book of a notary public

> -- that is, the book that a notary public used to keep a record of all

> the documents he wrote up. Also, in the quotes above "spousit" means

> "bretrothed" (see the Concise Scots Dictionary s.v. "spouse").

>

> If, in medieval Scotland, a couple had sex after a promise of future

> marriage, whether this promise was made publically at a formal

> handfasting/betrothal ceremony or was made privately with no witnesses

> at all, then the couple was *married*, not handfasted, but *married* --

> _permanently_ married. This is because the act of sex after such a

> promise of future marriage was considered to amount to present consent

> to marriage. And all it took to get married was for the couple to

> consent to it in the present tense. (This was also true in Scotland

> until 1940.)

>

> If, in medieval Scotland, a couple were married, they were married for

> *life*. There was no such thing as trial marriage. There was no such

> thing as marriage for a year and a day. There was either being married,

> or not being married. Once they did the being married bit, they stayed

> married till the day one of them died. The only way out was to prove

> that they were never legally married in the first place. That means, one

> or both of them were either too young, too closely related to each

> other, impotent at the time of their marriage, or already married to

> someone else at the time of their marriage. Even if they were too young,

> if they didn't stop living together as man and wife the day they became

> of age (12 for women, 14 for men), then they were considered legally

> married from then on (amounts to present consent, again). It is not

> until the Reformation (which occured in Scotland in 1560) that divorce

> and remarriage became a possibility.

>

> I'll also note that there isn't any evidence for a "year and a day"

> aspect of betrothal/handfasting in the period evidence. (Note also that

> in period, "a year and a day" from 11 July 1528 would be 11 July 1529 --

> they didn't count by 24 hour periods, but by, umm, days -- can't think

> what else to call it -- whole or partial between one date and the other,

> including the start date and end date.) The "year and a day" aspect of

> the _modern_ handfasting myth appears to come from a misunderstanding of

> Scottish property and inheritance law. In late period Scottish

> inheritance law, a widow or widower had the right to a part of their

> late spouse's real property (until they too died -- after which it would

> revert to their spouse's heirs). However, if the couple had not been

> married for a year and a day (that is, in modern terms, a year) when one

> of them died, the surviving spouse did *not* get a share of their late

> spouse's real property. The exception to this was if a child had been

> born to the couple before one of them died, in which case the widow or

> widower *did* get a share.

>

> You will note that this has nothing to do with betrothal/handfasting,

> and the only parting of the married couple involves one of them dying.

> But this appears to be the source of the "year and a day" aspect of the

> modern misunderstanding of historical handfasting.

>

> I'll also point out for your amusement that *in period* if a

> betrothed/handfasted couple had sex, they automatically became *married*

> -- permanently married. Something to entertain yourselves with between

> your handfasting and wedding. ;-) [Mind you, the church didn't like

> marriages made in this way, although they recoginized them as legal. The

> church liked to have such couples go through the religious service as

> well, even though they were already legally man and wife. This didn't

> make them any more married, but it did bring them into obediance to the

> church.]

>

> All of the above is, of course, in a Christian context, because Scotland

> was a Christian kingdom in the Middle Ages. The above forms of marriage

> were recognized by the medieval Christian church. As far as I am aware,

> there is no information whatsoever about marriage practices in Scotland

> prior to its Christianization.  If someone has some primary source

> information about pre-Christian Scottish marriage practices, I'd love to

> know. But note that I'm looking for primary source information -- not

> some secondary source, be it a web page or book, that makes

> unsubstantiated claims based on some other web page or book making

> unsubstantiated claims. (A secondary source that refers to the primary

> sources would, of course, be welcome.)

>

> PS Scotland was not the only place to practice handfasting. England

> (note that's England, not any "Celtic" culture) also had handfasting. It

> may be that in England that the term handfasting was also used to refer

> to permanent Christian marriage as well as betrothal, but so far I

> haven't found anything that clearly indicates this. Note that the

> marriage law in late medieval England was essentially the same as that

> in Scotland -- all of Roman Catholic Europe had more or less the same

> marriage law because marriage came under the jurisdiction of canon

> rather than civil law.

 

 

From: Laura C Minnick <lainie at gladstone.uoregon.edu>

To: PerRel p <perrel at egroups.com>

Date: Wed, 14 Jul 1999 16:01:13 -0700 (PDT)

Subject: [PerRel] Re: Fwd: [celt] Handfasting

 

Aidan-

 

        Thank you for posting that- it was quite good. The basic distinctions

are between the tense of the words spoken. Future tense= betrothal.

Present tense= marriage. Future tense+sex= marriage. It's pretty simple.

The canons are pretty clear. Nice stuff.

 

Father Abelard

-

Laura C. Minnick

 

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